first post. I looked all over the internet and cant find any stories similar to mine. a little background. my ex and I were together for over 4 years. have a daughter together. march of 2012 out of the blue she texts me some sob story she feels like crap. didn't want to text me, but basically saying she feels we grew apart. which I agree. last couple months we were together, I didn't text her or call her that much, was lazy when she asked to do little things like go to the store or the park with our daughter. at the end we were not living together. so I can see where she was coming from
well since then we hang out a lot. talk almost everyday. we do holidays together, exchange gifts. this past sept we went to Disney on vacation together, she was my date to weddings and ect.. we hung out and it never got intimate. no sex, no kissing just hanging out. though since we broke up she knows I still wanted it to work.
well the last 2 weeks shes been distant. I asked her to come to my firehouse banquet which she has the last 5 years. she was making excuses and just kept saying idk. so this past Monday I texted her and said look if your talking to someone just be honest. she said I am and that was that. I tried talking about us and she just says do you think we get along good enough? she said we can be a family, just not together which makes no sense. and were better off as friends. times since our breakup she has shown some signs of jealousy and slight affection.
what hurts the most is how since we been broken up, we hung out all the time. now there is a new guy around its like im nobody. she never said no just idk. and it took a lot to get her to admit there was someone else. I know I should move on but I don't want to . I honestly think there is a chance. why would she not just cut all ties after we broke up? she asked me to do stuff all the time to. which I always had time to do
since Monday I been trying no contact. we still talk but its been about our daughter, if she takes it off track I just ignore it. and she kinda did the same when I mention anything of us. she ignored it and an hour later texted me about our daughter.
I have ot meet her tomorrow to give her money for our daughter. thoughts how I should play it? like it hurts knowing shes talking to someone and I hate not texting her cause I feel she will forget about me and text the new guy. she not the partying type and literally stays with our daughter. so I don't know how much time she will actually have to date this new person. maybe once a week. and I have to assume its fairly new. cause we spent new years together.
problem also, I think its in her head I still want it to work, and she knows im always here for her. I never told her no to anything or meeting her at the store or whatever. just wish I could see into her head!
I really want to make it work and be a family. just lost on what to do because my situation is not normal. thank you in advance