Hi Everyone.
I had a bad fallen out with my cousin, who is also one of my best friends. Our mothers are sisters and we grew up together and have always been close. Over the years (as we have gotten older, we are the same age and a few months apart) I have noticed her "all about me" attitude and prideful behavior. A lot of people say that she is funny acting and I always ignore it because I know her and it used to be not as offensive to me because that's just how she is. However, it has been bothering me lately and I sort of flipped out on her this past weekend.
What lead up to this is because once, I was having an issue with my abusive Ex and his sister and I had gotten into it really bad. My Ex had come by my house to see the baby with his sister and she was being really confrontational saying that I needed to grow up and we got into a bad argument. My cousin came to my house in the midst of all of this (I didn't know she was coming but she seen my Ex and his sister standing by their car and I was on the porch going back and forth with them) and my cousin just rolled her eyes pulled back off as if she didn't have time for the drama. I can understand that but I had just had my son at the time (he was about 8 weeks old) and she didn't even bother to ask was I okay or was these people harassing me or did she need to call the cops or anything. We didn't speak for a couple of month because when I confronted her about it, she said she didn't have time for it and whatever. We eventually start talking again after I initiated it and she never apologized or anything. We just moved past it. Another incident was this past year, my birthday which was in October, Me, her and another friend had planned to go out to eat and maybe to a bar on my birthday since it was a week day. My Birthday comes and I don't get a call, a text or anything from her. During this time, my other best friend asked my cousin to meet us at a restaurant along with some other friends and my cousin said that she had to work. I knew that was a lie because she was the one who had made the plans for us to go out on my bday but then I never heard anything from her. I don't know what that was all about. A few days later, she calls me as if nothing happened. I got over it and moved passed it but all the while I'm starting to think she is real shady.
Fast forward, this past weekend we were supposed to go to a guy friend's of mine get together because he is moving out of the country soon for a few months. (not the one you all told me to stay away from) My friends agreed to go with me and mingle with some of his friends and basically be my company for the night. We all get dressed nice and go to the get together. She pulls up in her car and said she would be in soon and 20 minutes go by, she is still not in. I go ask her is she coming in and said no, she wasn't coming in. I had a few drinks in my system and I just went off on her. I told her that she was shady and I was so sick of her and her bullshit. I am always there for her and she is never there, she doesn't realize her faults and I just went lost it on her because she was being so lame as usual. I later found out that we had other family members in town that she is close with and that was the reason for her not coming in because she was about to go meet them. I put two and two together.
She texted me this morning and said that she was blocking me because she didnt have time for me being petty. I was thinking, what the hell? She has the nerve to blame me. I basically told her to **** off and we were through. She said that I needed to be a grown woman and I didn't need her to be with me and basically she acted as if I was mad at her over a guy. I told her she was so dumb and simple to think that I would be mad over a man. I told her that I was just tired of her consistently shady and bad, one sided friendship and if she didn't get it, then we didn't need to be friends. I don't feel bad about it but I just wonder if I handled it wrong or did she deserve it? I am not going to apologize so don't advise me to do so but I just want others input on it. Am I being petty? I know it seems petty but as I get older I have no time for BS so I'm getting them out of my life.
Has anyone ever fallen out with family/friends and if so how did you handle it? I'm starting to wonder if I even need friends at this point...
Are they really that important?