I think her reaction is OTT but maybe the pregnancy and the illness-all she has been through is making her irrational. Shes obviously very fragile right now so just let her know you are here for her and you dont want to fight or argue about this. Maybe put this conversation off for awhile until things calm down. She is in not able to think rationally right now or to see things from your perspective.
It sounds like you were being very calm and loving and she worked herself up into a frenzy. I am not sure why she would get so crazy about it if she isnt doing anything wrong but right now the baby is the priority so I think its better to avoid this topic right now (as unfair as that is to you)
I think she is being very unfair to you right now but again she is pregnant. If it was a normal pregnancy then maybe she would be calmer but shes under a lot of stress as this is not a typical pregnancy-it sounds high risk and she has been ill so stress levels are high. Give her some time to calm down and then bring her some flowers and give her a kiss. Tell her you dont want to fight and you love her-that you were just trying to protect your relationship coz you dont want to lose her and didnt mean to upset her. Tell her you dont have to talk about it right now.
Last edited by michelle23; 11-02-14 at 06:41 PM.
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