I seem to attract a disproportionate number of women who are already in relationships. Or to put it another way, women in relationships tend to be the most forward or aggressive with me compared with single women, and I don't quite understand why.
Single women may or may not be interested in me, but rarely have they behaved in as forward a way as women who are already in relationships do.
I can think of a few possible reasons, but I'd like to hear from you women as to what you think about this.
Possible reasons:
- Women in relationships are more confident and thus less intimidated, so they act more forward
- Women see me as a person who reminds them of something they are not getting from their current relationship
- Women see me as discrete / someone they could hook up with while staying in their relationship?
Basically, I seem to repeatedly attract women who are in relationships but behave more aggressively towards me than any single women ever do, and I would like to understand why.
Examples of aggressiveness means things like asking me for my phone number, trying to involve herself with me in some way ... my first serious relationship started when I was 18 about to turn 19, and she was actually a married woman of 28 who pursued me strongly in the beginning ... and she eventually left her husband and we got together but it did not work out.
This is clearly a pattern ... and it is happening now as well ... a girl in my O-Chem class sits next to me each day with her boyfriend on the other side. She is always talking to me and behaving in a way that I recognize / take to indicate attraction / interest (in what, I'm not entirely sure), and her boyfriend seems to get uncomfortable when she's talking to me and will interrupt us and laugh uncomfortably. This is not me initiating any of this either, as I don't talk to her first ... and she comes to sit by me each day because I'm usually there before she is ... (or her boyfriend could always sit next to me for example).
Anyway, point is ... women in relationships tend to be the ones who most aggressively express interest in me ... why are they doing this ?? Thanks.