Hello, here's my situation...
My fianc� & I have been together for a little over a year, we recently had a baby early this last December (2 months old now). It seemed as soon as she found out she was pregnant, our sex life took a dive- big time! We went from making love at least once a week, to every other week, to once a month- 3 months... For 6 months out of a year we were together we only made love twice (much to my emotional pain)! Now I do understand that while she was pregnant there was a lot of hormone changes going on, her body was fighting her in ways that I just wouldn't understand, so I was really patient & understanding of what she was going through, so I didn't push her to have sex, only when or if she wanted to (which really was few & far between). Even after having our baby I waited patiently for her to feel up to being with me, when she felt healed enough, & well enough. Now she isn't in any more pain from child birth, she's even lost more then her baby weight gain so her body image has been great! She's moving well, feeling good, looking good! I really could not be happier for her progress! & I've told her as much. We decided not to have any more kids, so I took the bullet & got a vacectomy so that she wouldn't have to be in anymore pain after just healing from the c-section.
In all this lately we only made love twice, once the day before my vasectomy, & the day after. Both times it was really good sex, & I truly believe that she was in a lot of pleasure during. So not much changed as far as quality of our love making. The problem I'm having is that it's going back into the few & far between mode, I've tried several times to initiate sex, just to be turned down. I do my best not to show emotional disappointment so as to not upset her for not wanting to make love with me, but it does hurt emotionally. It really just feels like she isn't passionate towards me, attracted to me, or interested in any kind of sexual relationship with me! The last time this happened with a woman, she ended up cheating multiple times, destroying a 13 year marriage!... I truly love the woman I'm with, with all my heart, she is the One for me! I just want her to want me, befor it turnes into another situation where she cheats too! That would actually break my heart, & I would never be able to recover from it! Maybe I'm doing something wrong, please help!?