My GF and I are both college graduates in our early 20's. I dont want to come off as being a jerk here, but my girlfriend seems to be extremely close to her extended family. I'm talking 2nd cousins, 2nd cousins' children, etc... She probably sees her extended family about once a month, and always expects me to attend these family events with her. I See my second cousins maybe once a year. I only have 4 first cousins, 2 living close that I see often, and 2 that live 3 hours away who I rarely see. The reason I'm writing this post is that I think it's odd that she sees her extended family this often and I honestly don't think that I should have to attend these events with her. I have no problem spending time with her immediate family (she lives with her mom, dad, grandma, brother and sister). In fact, I see her dad every day, as he is my boss and we have a good relationship. I just really don't like spending my weekends with her extended family. The fact that I have nothing in common with anyone in her family doesnt help the situation. I am obsessed with sports and enjoy computers and some other things as well. It seems as her family only enjoys food. At family events all they do is sit around and watch the food network for hours. It is extremely annoying and I am constantly bored out of my mind. Also, I work about 50 hours a week, and it takes me an hour and a half each way, to get to and from work. That's 65 hours a week dedicated to work and all I want to do on the weekend is relax, and and enjoy my free time. I enjoy sports and love to play basketball with my friends or maybe go to the bar or just relax at home because I literally have no time to relax during the week. I try to tell my GF this as a reason why I do not want to attend these family events with her and this makes her upset. She usually says something like "I always go to your family events and you never want to go to mine". The only difference is that My family events include my close family (mom, dad, bro, grandparents when they were alive, sometimes aunt uncle and first cousins), and I never make her go. I always ask her if she wants to and tell her it's fine if she doesn't. Her family events include her extended family (second cousins and their kids and usually totals at like 20-25 people), and she doesn't ask me if I want to go, she says she expects me to go. Maybe it's the fact that I was never extremely close to my second cousins, but her seeing them this much seem quite excessive to me and I'd rather spend my free time enjoying myself instead of spending time with her extended family. Am I just being selfish? What do you think