I was going back and forth with this girl a few weeks (almost a month..) ago. I've known her for almost six years, having met in college, but we've only ever really hung out a couple times. Our relationship pretty much kept going via text/Facebook, due primarily to the fact that she has traveled around and has always been long distance. She moved fairly closely recently, and pretty much came back into the picture after a recent break-up, so I'm trying to keep my eyes open about this. Anyways, after catching up two weekends in a row and a couple of awkward sexual encounters, she started telling me how she's 'tough to date' and things are tough for her due to her recent break-up. That was the point where we pretty much fell off, aside from the occasional text.
I've not ruled out the likely possibility that I was just the rebound (I'll throw out there that she mentioned having had a crush on me for a long time), but I want to give it another shot.
The problem is she's a few cities over from me (solid 1-1.5 hr drive). On top of that, we have basically no mutual acquaintances (she met a couple of my friends years ago, and I met her friends one time when we caught up). So I think for her, she sees me as just too far off the grid.
So I got it in my mind that I would call her up and invite her out if I got something going with my friends. That way she might have more incentive to come out this way if she has a more fleshed-out social circle here. Plus it would give us more to talk about and, ideally, strengthen our relationship.
Problem with that is... while I'm more inclined not to put a label to things, I think that with her outlook she'd be inclined to friend-zone me with this approach. Plus my friends like to drink, which is more than likely what we'd end up doing, and I did that with her the last two times we caught up, so I don't want to give her the impression that she'd fall in that rut with me.
I could go for broke and propose a date.. but again, between the 'off-the-grid' vibe and the fact that we haven't talked for a while (and what she told me last time we talked is none too encouraging..) feels like coming on a bit too strong.
So basically I'm just trying to figure out what I should try planning, given the circumstances. I need something decent if I want to persuade her to make the trip out. Should I be trying to plan one-on-one, or introduce her to my friends (or maybe both)..? Open to suggestions