What to do...

[TheNewbi]

My Girlfriend of 5 1/2 years broke up with me 5 months ago. The main reason why she broke it off with me because I got kicked out of an engineering program for not meeting the GPA requirement of the program. She called me lazy, unmotivated and does not see a future with me if I continued that path. Of course, her parents played a role too; by telling her to break up with me. I changed school( started in the fall 2013) and giving my best effort maintaining a 3.4 GPA as of right now. Should I try to win her back?

We havent seen each other since the break up...mainly because of me. I refuse to see her and maintained little to no contact. Last time I contacted her was to give her back some of her stuff ( did not see each other because I refuse to).

Reasons to get her back:
- I know she still cares for me and I still care for her. My friend told me she broke down during one of a birthday event ( 2 weeks ago). Plus , she broke down when she came to visit my parent.
- she never broke it off. She said she wanted the "break" but I understood what she meant so i broke it off instead.
- She had very good reasons to break up with me.
- I miss and want her back.

Reasons not to:
we were suppose to graduate in the spring 2013. She started her career already and I am still in school.
She left me when I really needed her the most. When I was in my darkest time, she left me.

What to do?

[surfhb2]

Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet. What kind of girl ends a relationship of 5 years just because you you had a 3.0 GPA and not a 3.4?

There has to be other reasons? What country are you from? Alot of non-western cultures have fvcked up cultural requirements

[TheNewbi]

Mainly because of I was lazy, unmotivated and pressure from her parents.

[basilandthyme]

No, don't win her back. Aim higher! Find a new girl who loves you and who will support you though life's blips

[Smila]

With a lady like this, you would be stuck running a rat race all your life...she would decide your goals and if you don't meet them, you are screwed..

as someone said, you dodged a bullet...

[amandabrooke]

Don't bother. I can't possibly understand why anyone would break up with someone over their GPA? That's ridiculous. And don't listen to her or her parents' opinions. It sounds to me like you believe you're lazy and unmotivated because of what they have said about you. Don't think less of yourself! From what you've said, you're working very hard in a degree program- doesn't sound like lazy or unmotivated to me. Everyone goes through rough spots, and this girl left you when you were struggling with personal issues. How can you ever expect her to offer support during tough times in the future? Personally, I think you can do better.

[TheNewbi]

Not because of a GPA. for not giving my effort and getting kicked out of the program. Had to change school and is 1 1/2 year behind now.

[amandabrooke]

I don't really think the reason matters. You were struggling in a tough situation and could have used support; she left you. This alone is a reason not to be with her. You obviously were with her for a long time so you miss her and are regretting your decision, but I think in the long run you can move on and find someone better for you.

[Smila]

^^^
Typical self pity mentality....well, learn from your experience...
and if you even were crazy enough to get her back you will be tap dancing to her tune all your life...