friendship after breakup

[secretaffair]

all this stuff is pretty relevant to my situation, two people who have split a few times( always on her terms while she finds herself again) but always end up back together. i cannot help go into panick mode when she says she needs time to think about stuff. if i say stuff i think she wants to hear she says she knows what i mean but this prolongs the time in limbo, if i play it cool she suddenly realises how much she cant be apart from me. now its happened again but this time it seems different, more determined for it to stop. shall i just play it cool again and hope for the best? i know she has feelings for me like i do her but u cannot force it outa someone i guess?

[stonesnbones]

MY opinion is that you cant be friends with your ex. Especially with the depth of emotion I pour out into every relationship. The memories will remain with me forever, a chunk of my heart and soul damaged. YOu can always heal, but anything to remind you of it will make your mind and body travel to that damage, and it will make you feel pain again.

I tried, and after 1 year, my ex started talking about her new BF and that he was moving in with her. That was when I knew I couldnt be friends anymore. I dont know what the motive was. If she got comfortable telling me about it because I was showing her I was willing to be friends, or if its she wants to test me, or piss me off the max, or if she thought nothing of the relationship and that allowed her to talk freely about it. It may even be an indicator that its not going w ell and wants me to steal her away. Regardless, I sure as hell doent want to be told she gets engaged or married.

[buzz bee]

you want to heal? then you cant be friends with your ex!!! because it simply dosent work