Are me and my friend a 'couple'?

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Me and my friend have been in contact over a decade. We talk to eachother on average between 3 to 6 hours a day without fail. I can't get enough of talking to her, I crave it infact and it is the highlight of my day.
We have both discussed the effect of not talking, not talking for one day alone feels like a thousand years. We both become miserable and unstable when we dont contact eachother.

We both talk about how we must move in together and how wonderful it would be, we intend to support eachother financially and emotionally.
It feels, from my perspective, as though we can't live without each other.

I could compare it to an addiction, I can't stop my association with her becuase it literally makes me physically and mentally sick and unstable to be without contact from her. I get actual real withdrawal symptoms.

Is this normal? Do people usually only feel like this about their partners rather than their 'friend'?
I feel as though we are in a relationship of some kind but without the physical aspect. How do I confirm this without embarrasing her and myself.

I can't go a few hours without craving to talk to or see her. Whenever anything significant happens in my life, she is the first person I think of to share it with.

Would others say this is it just a close friendship? We are the same gender by the way.
I have never felt so much attachment and I know I do love her deeply.

Are we just friends?

[searock]

Do you have sexual feelings for her?

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I do yes. How can I discover if she feels similar? Thanks, Adline x

[searock]

Well, assuming that she isn't 100% straight and you know this, I think the only way you can know whether she feels the same way is to actually talk about it... I know how hard it can be to confess your feelings to a friend, but unless you want to be stuck in this limbo forever, I think you should find the courage to just do it :-).

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Thanks Searock for your input. I'll have to try and work out a subtle way of dropping hints into our conversation today. I am actually clueless as to her sexuality, and as far as I know she's never had any partner of either gender. I was hoping because she wants to move in together and we spend all of our spare time with eachother, that she may feel similar to myself, but perhaps I am reading too much into this.

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At the very least, she loves you a lot. The only question is whether that love is sexual/romantic, or just friendly. Good luck talking to her today, I do hope things go as you hope. Relationships born from friendships are the best kind, IMO :-).

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Thanks again searock. Yes it would be wonderful if we could go from the best of friends to even more! I will try my best to find out how she feels, and if I do find out I will be sure to post a little update. Thanks, Adline x

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Thanks Searock for your input. I'll have to try and work out a subtle way of dropping hints into our conversation today. I am actually clueless as to her sexuality, and as far as I know she's never had any partner of either gender. I was hoping because she wants to move in together and we spend all of our spare time with eachother, that she may feel similar to myself, but perhaps I am reading too much into this.

Oh horseshit. You want to know? Ask.