What does this mean ?

[Converse]

This is weird I know I have a low oppinion of myself and am insecure, but I can't stop comparing myself to my boy friend's ex, I haven't mentioned it to him because he'd probably say 'what the ****' lol. The things I compare myself to her are- is she better looking ( she is), better sex wise and stupid stuff like that, and just the thought of her being better make's me want to cry. I just feel really low about my self and can't relax. I'm not going to mention anything to him because I don't want to ruin the relasionship by making him think I'm a weirdo, haha.

I made a thread a couple of week's ago about that dodgy text, but nothing came of that situation so that's all good. Why do I miss him after a day apart? Is that normal? I know I am abit obsessive but I'm not possessive or anything like that. He like's that we spend alot of time together but is too much time together abit weird? Or too much? I guess it can be, I do feel slightly depressed but more so when he's not around, I'm not a needy over emotional person.

He has alot of close female friends one of them being his best friend, I have no problem with that but I feel jelous of them and I don't know why, maybe because they have a close relasionship too I guess. I hate it when she's around not because I'm jelous, she just doesn't seem like a nice person.

What is wrong with me? Relasionships screw my head lol.

[Junket]

Don't know what your problem is but if you keep that up you're gonna ruin what sounds like could be a good relationship.

[Converse]

Don't know what your problem is but if you keep that up you're gonna ruin what sounds like could be a good relationship.

True, good point. I'm just gonna chill out no point stressing over nothing!

[Tone]

I made a thread a couple of week's ago about that dodgy text, but nothing came of that situation so that's all good.

:|

What is wrong with me?

Nothing. It's normal to feel jealous about ex's and current friends. Just keep in mind YOU'RE the one he's with now, for a reason. So YOU have something they don't. Keep telling yourself that and try not to worry about it. :)

[COAD]

Yep jealousy is the case.
TRUST ME, im a guy and I know - If i like a girl alot, im not gonna go look for other girls, unless something is wrong is the relationship.

I can tell you dont trust him either.

YOU need to tell him how you feel, he wont think your weird, your just being honest.
Honesty is a very large part of a healthy relationship.

[Prodigal]

Hey again, Converse.

I remember posting on your last post about the text, or at least reading about it. To COAD's response, I'd agree with him. I especially agree with his statement, "If I like a girl alot, I'm not gonna go look for other girls, unless something is wrong in the relationship". Good words to take heed of.

There is COAD's side, which takes into consideration that little piece... plus that your boyfriend has stayed with you and spends a lot of time with you (I remember you saying that). I will add what was from the last thread. You sort of have reason not to trust him because of that text.. especially because he sent it to his ex. I don't think you're over it... I think you still wonder about it. And I think it's going to take time to get over it... that is, if you haven't talked to him about it. And then comes, if you talk to him about it and he says what you want to hear (that it was a joke), would you believe him? These are the MAJOR questions in the relationship.

The relationship is going through some turmoil right now, but it seems only you know about it. It's a decision of whether to make it open or not. If you don't you may always be jealous... you may constantly think that he's doing more than sending suggestive texts. And that ends up in you never trusting him.

I think that this has become really hard: the situation has tainted your trust for him. Honestly, in a relationship... I don't exactly know if that is easily overcome. I think you may have to look elsewhere for answers to that question. These are merely the thoughts that come to my mind. Good luck to you.

[Tone]

Yeah let's get back to the text, I'm not lettin you go that easy!! You HAVE to find out what's up with that... I know you're nervous/scared to find out cause you are truely genuine about your feelings for him, it's apparent you really really really care for him and I can understand why you're afraid to hurt yourself with the truth but you OWE IT TO YOURSELF. No guy/girl is worth your time if they cannot be honest with you and talk to their ex about having sex behind your back.

Remember what I told you to say in that other thread? Do it! Find out the truth.

[Chlorine]

Converse---An ex-girlfriend came before you. She's an ex. However, she is part of his history. Nothing's going to change that. Don't compare yourself to her. You're not her. You're you.

Be yourself.

[Converse]

Thanx eveyone, you all give good advice. I haven' got the guts to bring up the text yet but I will at some point. Apart from that everything is going well. I know that text has made me trust him less, but I really don't belive he would cheat on me, I heard him talking to his mate he said, "Loving someone then cheating is a total contradition" that was kind of nice I guess. I know I have jelousy issue's, you're right though I do need to bring that text up so I know the truth, I always avoid doing stuff argh.

We're all going out tonight for his mate's B-day, loads of people are going and it's going to be Awesome but I'm dreading it and I don't know why. Do you guys think I have issue's? I hope I don't.