Hi everyone!
My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years now.
We have been deeply in love and connected to each other from early on in the relationship. The connection and relationship we have with each other is more than anything I have or have ever had with anyone else in my life - be it a family member, friend, or previous partner. We know each other inside and out basically.
However, unfortunately, it appears that our break-up is both inevitable and possibly even imminent.
Basically, my girlfriend and I - although so incredibly in love with each other - are a) two completely different people; and b) on different life paths to each other at the moment.
The part about us being different people does not actually bother me. To be specific, she is the kind of person who is organized, goal driven, punctual, and emotionally strong etc. Whereas I am more go-with-the-flow kind of person, and whilst I do have goals and aspirations, all I really need in life to be happy is love and affection, and the rest sorts itself out.
The part about us being on different paths is that she is well on her way into a great career in a job that will allow her to travel, whereas I am still a university student, and will be for at least another year or so.
There is also a second element to the "being on different paths" bit. I am planning to go travelling around Europe for maybe 3 months either mid this year, or mid next year. We have agreed that whenever that does happen, we will put our relationship on hold, and re-assess when i get back. Whilst she believes that I will meet someone on my travels and fall in love with them, I disagree, as I plan to come back home to her to try and continue our relationship. I also think it is much more likely that she will meet someone here whilst I am away, and end up in a relationship with them, and I will come home to nothing.
Until recently, whilst we have both been aware of these factors, was have not really discussed the situation in detail (as we have both been afraid of the reality). But just yesterday I decided I was sick of having it screwing with my heart and my mind, and brought it up. We have now discussed it, and we are both in the same position of feeling that we love each other so incredibly much that the idea of not being in each others lives is scary and depressing, but that we just don't know what to do.
In a nutshell, as much as the thought of us not being together is already starting to really break my heart, I'm thinking that perhaps its time to just bite the bullet and get the break up over and done with, if all we are currently doing is delaying the inevitable.
Has anyone every been in this situation before, where even though you and your partner have still loved each other dearly, you have decided that you just have to break up and move on? Can anyone advise if I should indeed just get the break up over and done with, or if we should stay together and try make it work?
Any advice or help would be so incredibly appreciated.
Either way, thank you for reading my long-winded question!
Much love!