I want to stay away from men, am I wrong to wanting to do that?

[belinda22]

Is it wrong I want to stay away from men? All they do is cause harm for me. Anyways, 3/10/14 I had sex with my ex boyfriend, that was very stupid of me. But anyways, I did take the Plan B One step pill. Today, 9 days later, I think I might be at the very beginning of my period but I do not want to get into detail here.

Anyways, all men do to me is treat me bad or take advantage of me. My ex boyfriend offered to help me get a job, then tells me how bad/strict the manager is and I should think about it before I go inside and apply. This other guy took advantage of me too. He told me that it didn't work between us, and then after a week of no talking, he calls me to tell me he got a new boyfriend ( news to me he told me he wasn't into men...) I had many other encounters with men and it makes me sad and upset. If this is truly my period here, is it wrong to stay away from men? How can I do that? I feel bad after I say "no" or " I can't" and everytime I get a "yeah, your making pitiful excuses not to hangout" and they don't believe me

[SoTired]

I think you generalize too much, there are good and bad people from both genders.

"My ex boyfriend offered to help me get a job, then tells me how bad/strict the manager is and I should think about it before I go inside and apply."

mmm..I think he was just being totally honest ; he brought you a job as he offered, but the manager is bad. Maybe he couldn't get you a job with a decent manager so he just did what he could.

[belinda22]

He did do the best he could but he said he would help me and all he did was tell me what to do and not to mention I was his ex or he would get in big trouble, and then he told me how strict she was and that I should think very carefully before I go in and apply

[basilandthyme]

Is it wrong I want to stay away from men? All they do is cause harm for me. Anyways, 3/10/14 I had sex with my ex boyfriend, that was very stupid of me. But anyways, I did take the Plan B One step pill. Today, 9 days later, I think I might be at the very beginning of my period but I do not want to get into detail here.

You were a willing participant. He didn't cause you harm.

My ex boyfriend offered to help me get a job, then tells me how bad/strict the manager is and I should think about it before I go inside and apply.

How is this harmful to you?

This other guy took advantage of me too. He told me that it didn't work between us, and then after a week of no talking, he calls me to tell me he got a new boyfriend ( news to me he told me he wasn't into men...)

How did he take advantage of you? He ended things and then moved on. So what?

I had many other encounters with men and it makes me sad and upset.

If your other complaints are as lame as these, I think the issue is that you're oversensitive.

I feel bad after I say "no" or " I can't" and everytime I get a "yeah, your making pitiful excuses not to hangout" and they don't believe me

I'd need more context to comment on this. Why don't you want to hang out with a boyfriend?

[thatend]

It seems you need to figure out your expectations from men, so indeed it's quite reasonable that you stay away for a while. We should be all heading to the point of knowing for ourselves right from wrong. You asking if you're wrong wanting to stay away from men indicates that you have some thinking to do. Seems like you're a bit confused about sex as well...if you should or shouldn't do it and when. So yes, take some time on your own till you figure this out- nothing wrong with it.
It's entirely irrelevant that this or that guy don't believe your reasons for not wanting to see them- in fact, if you don't feel like hanging out with someone, guess what...you're free not to see them, you don't own them your time. Telling white lies to avoid meeting someone is common social practice. In front of unreasonable probing, feel free to say: "well, ok, the truth is, I don't really want to see you". It's ok!...it sounds like you're very very young anyhow. Well, you'll figure it all out. Good luck!