Sorry for the length but I'm really at a loss....
My bf just cut off 1 of his female friends. He said it was bc he had a huge crush on her before we met (I knew about this) & was redeveloping serious feelings for her.
When he told her how he felt before meeting me, she rejected him & he accepted she liked him only as a friend & started to move on. A few mos later he met me. A little after that she moved to another state. I never had a problem w/ their friendship. she clearly had no feelings for him & was respectful/supportive of us. even before we met she wasn't leading him on, according to their friends.
6 mos into our relationship he caught feelings for her again so cut her off. He showed me a pic of her he had hidden in a box & he offered to shred it in front of me. He told me once he ended their friendship it helped him fall in love w/ me even more. He said she has some qualities I'm lacking, & he told her- "its wrong to have such strong feelings for u while I have a gf." He told me she was a threat to our relationship, & she had "a strange effect" on him.
before meeting me he took care of her when she was sick once & brought her to meet his parents (thats a huge deal, I'm the only other girl who's met his parents).
On 1 hand I'm so thankful he cut her off & told her his feelings were wrong. My friend said that shows how much he loves me bc as much as he cared for her, he was willing to kick her out of his life to make things work w/ me....but idk. If he loves me then how could he develop such strong feelings for another girl? Should I dump him?
I'm so hurt by him falling for someone else while were together. it made me feel like complete crap that he fell more in love w/ me once she was gone. It's like he cared for her more & I fell in the shadows while she was in his life. i feel 2nd best, like he settled bc she didn't want him.
Would u dump him if u were in my shoes?