Can I win her back? What do you think?

[moose19]

I'll attempt to make this short.

Dated a girl for two months, I hurt her pretty bad. I know she wanted me to love her, but at the time I just wasn't sure, so I neglected her love towards the end. Relationship just kinda fizzled out, I would contact her, she would ignore calls and texts, then she would contact me, I would ignore her till eventually we went about 2 weeks without contact.

We recently had a few texts, how are you etc . . . I told her I still thought about her, she said we would get together and talk. . . Never happened, but during that time I realized how much I cared for her. So I sent her a letter basically telling her I loved her, and how I wasn't sure before, but knew now I wanted to be with her.

In the letter I told her if she had moved on to just ignore me. . . She texted me a day later . . ." Don't think I'm ignoring you because I'm not, I've just been busy. . ." . . Made me think I had a chance. . . .we texted a few times over a couple days, then she told me " she was sorry, but she didn't want to lead me on, we could be friends" . . . She might be conflicted.

In the meantime I found out she's now dating a guy that was pursuing her when we were dating, I'm Fairly confident this is a rebound guy . . . At the time she chose me over him, now the roles are reversed. . . . I think she still has feelings for me, but is just responding out of hurt.

What do you guys think? Did I blow it? I'm thinking I should leave her alone for awhile.
Thanks guys, much appreciated.

[Jussie3au]

In all honesty, you've told her how you feel and where you stand, I think at this point, tell her that you'd like to hear from her if she's interested in a relationship, but otherwise you'll leave her alone to do her own thing.
If she doesn't respond to what you've said, then you have already lost her, at least for now. No harm in checking in later down the track if you are absolutely set on her, but don't over do it.

My two cents worth.

[basilandthyme]

Moose, you were only together for two months and not committed during that time. With this in mind, I'd say the new guy isn't a rebound. Why? Rebounds are about moving on too quickly before you've had time to recover from a relationship. Given that it was only two months AND you never really gave her what she wanted, I doubt she'd need much time to get over you.

From what you wrote, I can't see that she still has feelings for you.