Joe, looking back over your previous posts, the problem isn't that you treat women with respect. The problem is your insecurity and second guessing yourself. You need to learn to trust yourself and stand up for yourself.
For what it's worth, my hubby always respects my thoughts and opinions. But he doesn't hesitate to stand up to me if I need to be put in my place. Also, he doesn't put me first....rather, he puts himself on an equal footing to me. And he doesn't put me on a pedestal.
Are these all things which you've learned to do?
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.