I don't want to give these two guys the wrong impressions. Opinions or thoughts?

[Gumby]

Guy 1: I started talking to this guy in Paris about 4 years ago. We emailed and skyped often. Last summer he came to the US for the month of June so we could meet and hang out while I was visiting family and friends in another state. He rented a house and I stayed with him for the month. I was interested in him romantically, but he made it very clear that he did not want a romantic relationship with me. We had a good time together, but certain things that happened over the course of the time we spent together made me realize he wasn't a good fit for me romantically anyway. (He read my facebook emails and texts from a male friend. He actually ripped my phone out of my hand while in Starbucks and started reading. He was angry that I borrowed money from that friend, because he assumed my friend would want sexual favors from me in return, which was not the case, I would not hang out with someone like that. I mentioned he could visit my school, and meet my best friend who is fluent in French and he responded he didn't want to meet my friend because he is ugly. A few other things made me realize I didn't want to date him as much as I thought.) We had fun, he went home and didn't talk to me much after. About a month later, I went home and was involved in a pretty bad car accident. My mom called him to let him know, and I wasn't able to contact him personally for the three days I was hospitalized. When I got out, he changed his mind about dating and said he realized how much he cared for me after he thought he might loose me. I told him he really put me off with the stuff I mentioned above, but I care about him in a friendly way and want to be friends with him still. He apologized and said he'd change, has offered numerous times to visit me, pay for me to visit him; He has told me he loves me, is willing to let me move there and live with him WITH my five cats. I consider him a good friend, and have told him I don't think we should date. I would really like to go see him this summer for a month or so, but I am very in love with my ex (whom I very recently broke up with) and have no interest in dating him (or anyone right now,) which I am very clear about. However, I would love to go visit him, but I don't want to hurt him or for him to get the wrong idea or his hopes up. Should I or shouldn't I try to go visit him this summer? Should I just ask him if it'll hurt him for me to visit? He's a good friend and I miss him, but I don't want to upset him or give him false hope by going to see him.

Guy 2: I have a new guy friend whom I recently have started hanging out with. He's cool and I have fun with him, but he creeps me out at times and honestly I don't trust him. The second time we hung out, we drank and played video games. I didn't realize what I light weight I am. I got sick and at one point was sitting on the floor on the verge of blacking out. I was conscious and awake, but dizzy and couldn't stand. He was drunk too, and started like... making out with my hand. I did have a boyfriend at that time too, which he knew. I went to the bathroom quickly where I hid until I was able to walk back to my apartment. Second thing happened this past Friday. I went over again to drink and play video games and was a bit emotional after my recent breakup. I told him about it, while tipsy of course and started crying, he again was drunk I think. He kept trying to force my head up while I was crying and kiss me. I kept pulling away. At some point I can't remember when, I did tell him that I thought he was cool but didn't want to date him and didn't want him to get the wrong idea. Then later that night we were watching a move. I was having the spins so a lied down on my stomach, then he started kissing the back of my neck. I told him I was going to leave, but he begged me to stay the night, I stayed until he fell asleep, then quickly left. The next day, he said he wanted to take me out to a movie and put his hand on my leg. I don't really want to go out alone with him, because I get the feeling that he is trying to make our friendship into a thing, he keeps making unwanted advances. I act no differently toward him than I do my other friends and have made it clear I am not into dating. I know I'm not leading him on, he's just really persistent and it makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to feel pressured into dating, especially with my recent breakup. I have already decided drinking with him is a NO. I have been very honest about just wanting to be friends, and he is making me uncomfortable. Should I just cut him off? I feel like a bitch doing that, but I really am at a loss for what to do.

[basilandthyme]

Hon, your guy picker is really broken. Are you really so desperate for friends that you'd keep these guys in your life?

Guy 1 is a judgemental ass and Guy 2 doesn't respect the need for consent. Both would be friendship deal breakers for me.

[hoxtonchris]

bloke 1 is a control freak leave him NOW!,,,,,,,guy 2 is a sexual predator lleave him,PRONTO!girl you got to stop choosing the cool bad boys,i know girls see nice guys as boreing,but altho not certain ,you have a better chance of meeting a regular bloke in a nicey.

[bekho]

Girls are weird

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