Really need some help!!!!

[inpeices]

I am MADLY in love with this man. We have been together for a year. We recently broke up because for the past 7 or 8 months he has ALWAYS accused me of cheating. He will say that he knows for a FACT that I have done it..Which is not true. Like I said, I'm MADLY in love with him. He was always and will always be the only one I want. He goes completely crazy with all this...I have done all I know how to do so at this point I'm just repeating the things I've always done to try to get him to see...and it still has not worked. But I am not ready to give up on us. I panic when we aren't talking. I've got it BAD for this man. And he thinks the reason I've been bawling my eyes out and everything is because of 'guilt.' Which I do not have anything to be guilty for. I've always been faithful and honest and loyal to my man. There will be a few moments where it's like I'm finally getting through to him, but the next second he goes CRAZY again....I don't know what to do....I know I can't live my life without him. I can't give up on him or us. I was hoping maybe someone out there went through this and knows of ANYTHING I can do. =\

[michelle23]

Are you sure hes not cheating on you? If hes this paranoid then it could be guilt talking.

And how can you say you love him? What hes doing is emotional abuse. You need to stay away from him. If hes not making you happy hes not worth it. Love shouldnt be so hard

[inpeices]

I really don't think he is cheating on me. He's been cheated on by a few girlfriends in his past so I think that has a lot to do with it. And yeah it's crazy that I love him right? All this pointless drama...I'm just not ready to give up on him or us. =\ Just a little on the dumb side I guess. Lol. He wasn't always this way with me. We used to have a pretty great relationship. But then weird stuff happened that made him think I was cheating and ever since then EVERYTHING makes him think that...Even though I was ALWAYS around him...unless he had an errand to run and didn't take me with. And his errands never took more than like an hour or less.

[Boisdevie]

I am MADLY in love with this man. We have been together for a year. We recently broke up because for the past 7 or 8 months he has ALWAYS accused me of cheating.



I was hoping maybe someone out there went through this and knows of ANYTHING I can do. =\

If it was me I'd question my decision making processes. You love him but he acts like this. Listen sister, most of us would identify this guy as a first class dickhead and we'd stay well clear of the dipshit. Why can't you? So desperate not to be single are we?

[inpeices]

Like I said...I'm in love with him. It has nothing to do with not wanting to be single...because honestly I don't mind the single part. I've always been more of a loner. Just like if we can't work things out, that is EXACTLY what I'll be...single. If I had a problem with being single rather than just being without him, then I'd be out finding someone else..but like I said, I have no problems being single. but yes I do love him and want to work things out with him. thank you.

[Valixy]

People can get insecure sometimes but having massive jealousy crises repeatedly and acting crazy is scary. This man has been harming you emotionally and if you continue with him he could maybe become violent. The old saying that all women are untrusworthy and you should hit a woman without reason because for sure there is one that you don't know about but she does, might make sense to him.

The best thing for you is that he broke up with you and hopefully he'll never ever get together with you again because you'll just continue being abused more and more in time.

Grow a bone, woman, come to your senses, realize that you've dogged a bullet and be glad that life did for you what you unfortunately couldn't do for yourself.

I feel sorry for you two because you've both got serious problems and none of you is aware of it. Don't you dare have a baby with a man like that. If you so much enjoy living in hell at least don't bring another innocent human being in it and make him pay for your lack of strength, good judgement, internal balance and poor desicions.

You could decide to let this unfortunate man go though, work on yourself and have a chance for a happier relationship and life.

[Valixy]

I want to work things out with him.

You can't. His chronic jealousy is an illness that could destroy you. What you can do is recognize someone who is too damaged, capable of hurting you and love yourself more by not putting yourself in a situation like that again.

If in the first year he's been like that, how do you think he'll be in the next years? The honey moon phases finishes, the infatuation fades and people start showing their real selves and that's when an abuser stops applying the little self control he used to show at the beginning.

[smiling100]

Doesn't sound like love to me?

Does not sound like fun at all?