Feeling manipulated

[Bishill]

Hello there everyone. I will try to make it simple for you. I appreciate your time.

I met a girl 2 years ago while I was trying to join the army. We had an instant connection, but at the time she had a boyfriend, so I always thought we would be just friends. She didnt manage to enter the army, so we only talked online.

I invited her for my military Pledge of Allegiance (in my country that makes us officially militaries), a very special occasion for me. She said she would show up, but at the last minute she said she couldn't.

I stopped talking to her for a couple months because of that. But I didnt like my attitude - maybe she wanted to come and she couldnt - so I apologized and we started talking again.

At some point (6 months later), after we started talking more, she said she wanted to meet me. She said "try to get your drivers license so you can see me".
I said while she was dating, that would'nt happen, even as friends.


She told me her relationship was ending, that her boyfriend was obsessed and they were just part of the same friend's group. Although, She said she had the Facebook relationship status of him, because "the other people at her work would annoy her if they knew about the break-up" (they work together)).

I invited her a couple times to go out, but at the last minute she said she couldn't (like before).

She finally deleted the relationship status (i didnt see that she kept their photos), and I managed to see her. We kissed, she said she liked being with me. After that I even sent her flowers as surprise.

She never mentioned being together again. Her "ex" was constantly after her. She let him. She was more time with him (I didnt even see her more) and I saw the pics of them as couple still posted and I gave up, but she ran after me.

3 months after ( and lots of conversations about the subject) I thought something would change, but her attitude got worse. She ignored me even more, but she didn't liked when I replied the same way. She said I didn't give her attention (when i always tried to be with her, despite my job).

I called her and said I wasnt able to be away from someone I like that long, with no effort from her, and it would be better for us to not talk again. She said we should meet and talk about it. I agreed, but she didnt show up. Same old apologies as usual.

I cut contact with her.

I have a bad temper, but I always tried to be patient, since she always had arguments with everyone around her (according to her).

Tried to believe in someone again, since my last relationship didn't end well, and she played that card on me, so that I believed in her story.


Do you think she just wanted to play with my feelings? Wanted me as a second optin? She said she always seeks revenge. I didnt nothing to her, expect not talking to her for a while. I always came back. I guess she is expecting I do the same now.


Thank you for your answers.

[Boisdevie]

Clearly she's not the slightest bit interested in you. Perhaps she enjoyed the feeling that you wanted her as your girlfriend. You are being manipulated.

[KellyH]

You two have had a lot of back and forth and since you both aren't in the same area and she doesn't always make an effort to get together with you I think you should move on. Maybe she just likes the attention you were giving her and when she felt lonely that was nice to have. I think you can do much better with a girl that is actually going to make an effort to see you and talk to you. Watch the temper as much as you can. Even the nicest girls will run from that...

[Wakeup]

I cut contact with her.

Do this for good. Never contact her again and if she contacts you, ignore her. Better yet, block and delete and defriend her from every social networking site and then forget she exists.

She's not interested in ever meeting you or she would have by now. End the nonsense and take back your personal power instead of always placing it back in her hands.

[Bishill]

I have a bad temper. But despite all I know and confronting her, I never disrespected her.
Its hard to control yourself when someone is playing with your feelings. Men have feelings too

[Lord Darkshire]

She had a BF. Right there is why you should have never continued contact with her. A girl that has a BF and is willing to keep in contact with you, can only spell trouble. She is emotionally insecure and sot out you for attention when she wasn't getting it from her BF. You only have yourself to blame for getting involved with this tart.

[Bishill]

She had a BF. Right there is why you should have never continued contact with her. A girl that has a BF and is willing to keep in contact with you, can only spell trouble. She is emotionally insecure and sot out you for attention when she wasn't getting it from her BF. You only have yourself to blame for getting involved with this tart.

Yes, you are right. I shouldnt give her the credibility I gave. True lesson.

I guess im not the only one she is playing with.

[smackie9]

No she's messin with her BF and whomever else she meets on line....typical attention whore.

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Oh well sometimes our feelings make us overlook the obvious. It's happened to all of us.

[michelle23]

Its time to move on now and forget her. Never go near someone in a relationship or who just got out of one. You will always be the third wheel that way and always get hurt