Originally Posted by
cbg123
A little background on me: I'm 19 years old. I have a son who will be 2 in July. His father is not involved and I have full custody. I have been dating a man who is 24 years old since my son was about 6 weeks old--so around 2 years. About 3 months into our relationship, he took me to Kay Jewelers and had me look at engagement rings. 2 months after that, he got me a "promise ring". It has been over a year since receiving the promise ring and we have discussed engagement but he absolutely refuses to pop the question. 6 months ago, he promised me that he was going to ask me within the next 6 months but he hasn't. Now he keeps telling me "soon" but avoids discussing or looking at rings. He is constantly saying that he will go "when he has time" and putting it off. I'm at my wits end. After 2 years, I am ready to take the next step in our relationship. He says he is as well--but actions speak louder than words. We are both about to graduate. He is getting his Associate's in Nursing and I am getting my Bachelor's in ECE. He has a stable job. What is the hold up? I'm exhausted from all of the empty promises.
What's YOUR hurry? Neither one of you have found placement in your chosen careers. You sound desperate. Why not just relax and get settled financially with two good jobs before you tie the knot?
You've done EVERYTHING in a hurry in your Young life which left you with a child at the age of 16/17 and a man that didn't want commitment from you or the responsibility of a child. Stop rushing yourself and quit pressuring this guy. Perhaps he's wanting to make 100% sure you're the one for him, which is smart of him.
Last edited by Wakeup; 19-04-14 at 10:18 AM.
Reason: reworded
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion