Originally Posted by
muttley84
Hi,
ive been in a relationship for 7 years now we have 3 children.
but i no longer feel important or special to my partner
this has been going on for a few years now.
we dont have sex often at all. maybe once a month at best.
This is what I think based on your rather tunnel vision explanation of your dilemma: She doesn't want sex because every time you do have sex, she ends up pregnant. Three children in 7 years is too much so put on a rubber or get yourself a vasectomy and quit blaming her for not wanting sex with you. She's tired and her body and mind is rebelling against the strain.
i want sex alot more its important to our relationship
So is your understanding of what she's (IMO) going through. If you want more sex then go to the doctor and ask for a vasectomy so that she knows for sure she won't get pregnant again. Then, take her out on the town without the children and do something romantic and fun with her. Show her that you love her and enjoy her company, make it clear you value her for more then getting yours.
i have spoken to her about this awhile ago she said she doesn't like sex because she put on weight after the children.
i dont feel loved in the relationship anymore but I'm not unhappy i guess the correct word would be content
You are sounding more and more like a lousy husband.
but here is the thing.
in my search to feel special i met this polish women online.
Fvuck you and the polish woman you rode in on.
we talk all day well her daytime not mine.
Did you think giving all your attention to another woman would make your wife climb on top? What is wrong with you?
we traded pictures left each other you tube videos she said she loves me & im having feelings for her.
Did you tell her you were married with three children? If you did then fvuck you and the polish woman you rode in on. If you didn't tell her then fvuck you and the cheating twit that you are.
i have thought about calling it off but cant
Why.. does she have a gun to your head?
the thing im confused with is do i risk everything i have worked hard for 7 years but now content do i risk it all for a chance to find happiness
& how much do the kids factor into the decision.
i love my children & want only the best for them
but i want to be happy
Cool story bro.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion