So, my woman of 15 years says she doesn't see me that way anymore. I did the logical thing and tried to walk, but it turned into a big fight, she didn't want me to go. It broke my heart, the way she was talking about being without me, I just couldn't do it.
So I said I'd stay as a friend, just no more cuddling or touching and we would fully be just friends, as a temporary solution. Nope. She got really upset about that. Said I was being "punitive".
She won't tell me what the problem is, either. Communication is definitely not her strong suit ... for a woman her age, it's pretty bad. I am operating completely in the dark, and apparently she doesn't really care enough to even explain herself.
So I tried to just roll with it, you know, see what happens. Did the movie night and the cuddling, tried being romantic. Well, she had fun. Then, when I took a little initiative (very mild) she shot me down and left me dealing with the erection.
It's like every possible solution, no matter how reasonable or mature or realistic, just gets shot down. It's been going on for years now, it's getting positively inhuman.
So I had this crazy idea. It seems like, as things stand, she doesn't have sufficient motivation to do anything about the problem, and she's blocking me from any solution because the present situation suits her. But why should it be only me who has to deal with the erection? I'm going to get naked whenever I get one. I won't do anything, I won't creep on her all naked lol, but it will be there, bobbing around, and she'll have to suffer some of the awkward consequences of her decisions too. I will get naked for every cuddle, every hug - then she might go for the friends idea and stop causing me grief. Sometimes I think I'll just get naked and do whatever I'm doing, I mean, a willing, naked, good looking guy doing the dishes should get any woman out of her shell, right?
Or, she'll be horrified, and she won't be able to deal with it, and the inevitable breakup will be allowed to happen without all the resistance. That's ok too since it's preventing me from having a healthy relationship and life is short. It seems like anything is better than the present, unacceptable situation.
Is this a crazy plan that can't work or is it completely awesome? Keeping in mind that *any* resolution is preferable to this ridiculous impasse. I just need her to budge, one way or another. She's become too comfortable. Female opinion would be especially instructive here.