Should I give up and move on?

[Taylor28]

So I'm 28 and my ex boyfriend is 33. We were together for 8 1/2 years and actually really happy. Before Christmas we were looking at houses to buy and it all seemed to be going in the right direction. Then the day before valentines day I found messages in his email from a co worker of his who is 22. They were sexual messages and ones saying she had feelings for him and cared about him. He seemed to just be playing along and never admitted to having feelings. As you can imagine it felt like the air had been sucked out when I read them. I text him telling him not to come home and he called me asking what was wrong. I asked him if there was anything he wanted to tell me about her and he said no they were just friends and that was it so I told him I found the messages. He went on to say that he didn't know how to tell me. It got out of hand and it was just a bit of banter. Anyway I moved out but he begged me to forgive him which I did but said I didn't want to move home straight away as I needed a bit more time. 2 weeks later he calls me and says he wants a clean break from me. He tells me that nothing is going on but one of the people he works with is my friend and she's told me that all they do is flirt and talk all day and it's been happening for months. I just don't understand how he can throw 8 years away for a girl 10 years younger and when we were looking at buying a house. Am I mad for still loving him? Should I just move on and let him get on with it as he's obviously made up his mind even though I think about him all the time? I don't understand what went wrong? He said I was the perfect girlfriend but he just wants to be on his own. Is this just a polite way of saying I want someone else?

[pcmaster]

Well you might be angry and ask why shes better than you. And answer comes out simple - shes younger. Looks like he having more fun with that kid than you cause theres something new going on and guy enjoys having different kind of attention. Research shows that man prefers younger women cause they easier to live with. Less brains less trouble you know? He can manipulate her easy and she just blindly likes him for nothing. Maybe shes selflessly giving him her all without asking anything in return. Who knows. Difference is you been together for so long in mature relationship while they are in honeymoon stage and basically don't know each other, just enjoying emotions and early attraction.

You gave him chance. He decited to break up anyway. What else can you do. Move on. This will help you.

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