Hi all, this is my first post so please be gentle. I love my girlfriend very much but something has been troubling me recently. We have been together over a year and that whole time she has been in constant contact with her ex that she split from three years ago. I am all for being on good terms with exs (lets face it - its better than being mortal enemies!), but this rat cheated on her for 8 years with another woman as well as quite a few one night stands.
Really I just want to understand two things.
Firstly, she still says that he is a "great guy" despite the all cheating, does this seem to you that there may still be some attachment there? Would you be friends with an ex like that? Would you be threatened if it was you?
Secondly, he was in town recently and she met him 2 nights running, even though she said she only wanted to meet him once to tell him once and for all that they had split up and that she doesn't want him phoning and messaging every other day. This strikes me as odd as she didn't get round to telling him anything like that at all. Am I being a bit of a mug here?
.....and before anyone asks, they were not married and there are no children in the equation. Many thanks in advance for your thoughts.