Not sure what to do with time running out...

[WattsMafia]

About 5 years ago I was holidaying in Amsterdam, I met a girl from the USA who was staying with a friend there and would be going back to Bristol (UK) a day after me returning to London (UK). While in Amsterdam we hit it off straight away and spent a few days together, we had so much in common and she had the most wonderful sense of humour she was stunning to look at which was a bonus and yeah I fell in love with her very early on. When back in the UK I drove to Bristol and spent a couple of nights with her and nearing her return to the USA she stayed with me at my parents house. She basically used up all of her time in the UK and had to return to the USA, I was pretty gutted to be honest and at the time I was living with my parents and wasn't earning that much money, but we said our goodbyes and she went back.
In the next years I always sent this girl a monthly message on Facebook just finding out how she is and resuming a friendship and in this time we both have new relationships with other people while staying in touch online. Things got a bit shitty for her in the USA last year and split from her boyfriend and my relationship went down the toilet also, by this point I haven't heard from the American too much and on Valentines day 2014 I compose her a message and send her it on Facebook, it basically said if I could have anyone in the world I'd have her, anyway I don't hear anything for a few days and then I receive a message from her saying, no one has ever sent her something so nice and basically she's coming to the UK to spend sometime with me, with my circumstances completely different now (good job, savings and owning my own house) and me looking for a new relationship I'm over the moon and I book us a holiday to Barcelona for when she arrives. Anyway she arrived on May 1st and we've been to Spain for 2 weeks now we’re back in the UK, she's away with friends until Monday then we’re spending the rest of the week together then Friday 30th May she flies back to the USA.

While driving down the coast in Spain from Barcelona we stopped in Valencia for a night, that night I tell her I love her, she’s impressed but we had both drunk quite a lot and somehow had a argument, we leave Valencia the following day and when not drunk we continue the discussion about love and she is asking all kinds of questions to why I love her and says she only came to meet me as we both wasn't dating and for a holiday but declares she does actually have a lot of feelings for me also mentioning moving to the UK could be a possibility. I understand tell her I loved her while quite drunk wasn’t a great idea but that’s the way it happened.

I’m just so stuck now and dreading next Friday when she flies home as I sincerely love this girl and she’s made me feel really confused. When we first met years back we were having sex with each other, but not seeing her for around five years it did cross my mind that she may not fancy me in that way anymore so when she arrived this month I played it cool and on the first night we had drinks slept in the same bed but no sex took place, but on the second night we had drinks again was in bed watching a movie when she rolled over and just said ‘are you gonna **** me or what?’.. So I did, it was great it lasted hours, everyday since we’ve been all over each other. My point is she’s made the sexual first moves this time around.

Can anyone here offer me some sound advice on my next steps, do I just let her to return to the USA or do I attempt to ask her to stay in the UK, I love her so much I’d even marry her but understand this could be very premature and could totally ruin things..

Thanks for listening

[Valixy]

Relationships that start with people living in different countries are not the easiest but are not unusual. Many couples end up having a very successful relationship with one of them changing residence. Since you feel so much for her and you'd like a relationship, I think that you should speak with her again and this time choosing a relaxing moment when not too much alcohol is involved. If she feels the same for you she'll be able to have this conversation and see a real possibiliy. If not, maybe you shouldn't pursue anything else after she returns to the US and try to detach. Good luck.