how to know when to end a relationship?

[Suzan]

I'm a girl (20 years old). Been together with my boyfriend for 6 months.

I know no relationship is perfect. There are ups and downs. But when do you know, when there's a down phase, that it really is just a phase?

I love my boyfriend. But at work I got to know this guy..
He's cute and really nice but I swear I feel no way attracted to him. We are just friends but when I look at his personality, I sometimes wish my boyfriend could be a little more like him. He's interested in photography, biology, sports .. Things like that. Things that I like too. He's interested in so many things always doing something, just like me.
My boyfriend doesn't really have any hobbies. He likes to play computer games while skyping with his friends for hours.. Something I personally don't call a hobby. My boyfriend sometimes wishes I were a "Gamer girl", unfortunately I'm not... I hate computer games.

Now does the fact, that I compare him to my friend & wish that he could be a little more like him, show that I should break up? Or doesn't that mean a thing? Is it normal to do that?

I recently posted that me & my boyfriend have huge communication problems.. I tried to talk to him about it, he doesn't see it as a real problem. But we fight very often...

Yesterday for example:
I came over, and I looked myself in the mirror, checking my outfit (we went bowling).
He walks towards me and says: you do have a big ass don't you?
He smiled while saying that. He meant it as a joke he explained. But I was hurt and a little angry because he knows I've had issues (used to eat very little, made myself throw up, even cut myself because I just didn't like my body & thought I was too fat. I'm way better now. Now I work out 6 days a week, eat healthy. I'm trying to get in shape the healthy way. But I'm no where near overweight).
So I was pissed because he knows I'm still sensitive when it comes to my body.

I told him that it's not okay to say that & he acted very annoyed & said: come on, stop being so sensitive! You know I was joking! What's wrong with you?
I said: you know I don't think that's funny. I'm still struggling
Then he said: yeah okay, I stop talking. I'm the asshole. As always.
I told him that I don't see him as an asshole I just don't like the fact that he said my ass is big..

Anyways. In that moment I was thinking about what things would be like if he could be just a little nicer. A little different . . What does me, thinking like that sometimes, say about me?

But then he is really nice to me. Apologizes for acting like an asshole sometimes..
He says that he loves me and that I'm the most beautiful girl. He can be very romantic because he knows I like that sometimes..

So I'm confused.
When can you tell that you should break up with someone? Knowing that you still have feelings for that person, even though, sometimes you're not sure what kind of feelings that are?

[somehelp4me]

Either you work on your issues with your bf and you or you move on but you don't cheat in hopes of figuring it out by keeping both.
One or the other and if you feel a strong pull to another guy already only after a 6month relationship I'd say move on.

[Suzan]

and if you feel a strong pull to another guy already only after a 6month relationship I'd say move on.

Thanks for replying. Just wanted to clear up that I don't feel a strong pull to that guy... I'm not attracted to him at all... . There's no other guy.

[pcmaster]

Usually after year of being together you see the real person. Well you know when to break up when keeping relationship together is a huge struggle like it shouldn't be and when you are sure you can be happier alone. However you are being too sensitive. You dont have much confidence and thats why comment about butt really touched you. Its really just you, better swallow it and grow some ticker skin. But good that you told guy about it cause theres should be a compromise in everything and he have to love you will all your obsessions and craziness and seems like he does.

[Suzan]

I know I have to work on my confidence. Unfortunately it's not that easy for me because I spent my whole life not liking me. Thanks for replying! : )

[Valen]

It's time to end the relationship when you know being with them will not lead to happiness.

[Suzan]

That's well said! Thank u so much for replying

[searock]

Sweetie, you can have it so much better. Being in a relationship shouldn't make you feel so doubtful and insecure, it should make your life easier, "lighter" in a way. You should feel like you are exactly where you are supposed to be. It should feel like it's the most "right" thing that's ever happened to you.

He sounds very emotionally immature, while you want someone more empathetic and deep. You should never settle for someone you don't absolutely like and love. Yes, you should break up. You'll feel better soon and you'll be free when the right guy comes along, instead of being tied down in a relationship you can't get rid of. Do it as soon as possible (which is tomorrow, or even right now... seriously, don't wait).

[michelle23]

Uh I hate it when people do that. What he said did make him an asshole-then he acts like your the problem by sarcastically throwing in the "as usual".. rolling my eyes.. it actually makes me so angry when people do that lol

Honestly you have only been together 6months and you have a list of things you want to change about him. The honeymoon period is over and you no now hes not what you want.. so break up with him