Falling for someone i can never have...

[lily88]

Hi all. I'm new to this site and kind of nervous as i've never talked about my personal life to complete strangers before, but i think i need an honest, unbiased opinion so here goes...
I know this is going to sound absolutely ridiculous and i'm sure not many people will take it seriously but i'm desperate for advice so screw it. About a year ago i began speaking to a guy online. I never speak to guys on sites like facebook usually, but for some reason i did and i regret it now. We quickly found how much we had in common. I know it sounds like a total cliche when someone says 'We had all the same interests, loved the same music and movies, had the same beliefs, morals, goals...' etc, but it was literally like finding the male version of myself and that intrigued me. I have so many great friends and i love them all to pieces, but with this guy it's like looking in a mirror, being able to be myself (showing both the good and the bad) completely, the other side of myself that i rarely show anyone, because he understands and won't judge. I guess it was because of this that i continued to talk to him, despite the fact he was a total stranger and lived in a different country!! He was just good to talk to so i stopped thinking about how sad it would sound to my friends! We started talking every day, for hours on end on the laptop and later by phone, usually till the early hours of the morning (then get up for work like zombies but we didn't care because it was worth it) We talked about everything, our childhoods, our families, our dreams, our fears. I have somehow managed to open up to this man more over the past 12 months than i have to most of my friends over 10 years! (Yes i know how stupid that sounds.) There's just this connection/chemistry, whatever, that i can't explain properly. Physically i've never been more attracted to someone before. Personality wise, he's everything i've ever wanted in a guy. Like literally my idea of perfect. And i cant get him out of my head. I know it's such a waste of time, nothing can ever come of it which we both agree on despite how we feel about one another, because he lives in a different bloody country!! Its not like i can get in the car and drive a few hours to see him. When we realised we were starting to have feelings for one another, we said we'd stop talking. It lasted a week or two and then we were calling each other again because it was so hard. Sounds pathetic but i missed him so much. It is hard to explain to anyone who hasn't been in this situation before. I have seen friends get to know people online and i've judged. I told them to go to a bar and get to know someone properly! Maybe this is my karma! But as crazy as it sounds i feel like i'm really starting to fall for him and i hate it. The hard thing is we both know if we lived in the same country we'd be so happy together. Its not often you find someone you can connect with on so many levels, who gets everything about you, and it hurts to think that the one i feel that way about is the one i can never have. Neither of us can move. We both have careers etc. My head is telling me to cut off all contact, because its like torture and i know it cant carry on like this. But my heart doesn't want to stop because he makes me happy now, and i don't want to lose someone who has become almost like a best friend to me. Someone please help. I know this whole thing makes me sound like a 16 year old with a sad crush, but it genuinely hurts.
Lily, 25, UK.

[smackie9]

Just enjoy the friendship. Someday this infactuation will wear off and you both with go your own separate ways.