Is this fixable?

[krbiii]

I seek advice seeing as how I have nobody in the material world to talk to about these problems of mine. I'll be as short but detailed as I can.
In the beginning of May I met a girl on OKCupid (a free dating application). She messaged me first and gave me a nice compliment; and after finding her attractive in both senses-- I gave her a compliment too. She is local (lives about 10 miles from me) and we both go to the same college. We chatted on OKCupid for a day or two before exchanging phone number, in which we texted for another few days before we set up our first date. We had a blast and got along well. Two more dates happened in which our late date was a cuddle night. We ended up kissing and sparks were definitely flying on my side... but an unfortunate turn of events happened. My anxiety and eagerness to see and make plans with her overwhelmed her and she told me. I accidentally used the word "perfect" and she felt as if she was on top of a pedestal. I told her that I needed to clear things up on my end and she agreed that I shouldn't drag somebody into my emotional instability.
When she was coming to truth with her feelings of me seeming "pushy" she told me that we could still be friends, but I am having a hard time deciphering he words and what they might mean.
Here is what I am having difficulty understanding and need advice for:

"Well lately you have been pushy and it's been turning me away. But other than that I have been meaning to tell you I think it's better if for right now we just stay friends. You're a great guy and everything but last time we hung out I felt like you were putting me on a really high pedestal that I won't be able to live up to. You've mentioned before that you get sad easily and get anxious and I don't wanna cause more of that. It's a lot of pressure when someone tells you that you're perfect. I'm not perfect though and if I do something that you don't like or don't live up to expectations I don't want you to hurt yourself or get depressed about it. It's just a lot of responsibility for me that I don't think I as a person can handle. I can see you don't do well by yourself but I can't be with you 24/7 and I don't want you to get sad about that either. It doesn't mean you're a bad person or messed up. I just think it's better if you focus on yourself and try to get more comfortable with your feelings and everything first. I don't want to end up being your first gf and hurting you and making you not want to try ever again. I'm really sorry I don't want to hurt your feelings but I gotta be honest"
She also replied to a question of mine; if whether her decisions were because of me as a person or my emotional levels... that she "doesn't know" how to handle it. That I shouldn't be upset if she finds a BF in the mean time, etc.

I am going to spend time for myself but ultimately I want to figure out if I can work towards something with her again. I plan on surprising her with a healthy lunch at her work... and after that, proposing hang outs once every 2 weeks or so before I leave for my work training ( 8 full days for 9 hours a day ).
In this mean time of handling and figuring out my anxiety, eagerness... and insecurity... is it possible for me to win her over? I care for the gal and I'm not sure if she'll be open to the idea that I DO want to come back and change for the better, for her-- I just can't tell her that. =\

[basilandthyme]

Sorry mate, but that was her dumping you. DON'T surprise her with a lunch and don't propose to hang out - it will only drive her away further. I would say that you have zero chance of getting back with her.

I know how it feels to be so keen on someone that you want to spend every waking hour with or thinking about a person, but you can't let it get away from you. Let the emotions run rampant in your head and enjoy it all, but don't act on them.

Move on and learn from it.

[pcmaster]

Well you can win her over but it will take you months to become a diferent person. AS I see she wants someone who is less clingly, more cool and cant be affected so easy as you do. Bet you told her lot of compliments and thats a good thing but she might have impression that you really are idiot and think about her like that. The problem is she dont see herself as perfect as you do so shes having hard time accepting it. Also you said to her you get sad easy and thats a mistake. lesson number one - dont tell a girl whats wrong with you, she will see it pretty fast by herself. Basicaly your mistake was fall for her so fast. You showed that you are sucker in love department. What you have to do is rise your value - like say something good about yourself, highlight your good qualities and things you do. Also dont always give compliments to her but rather limit yourself to one compliment a day and rather say something bad about her like in a playful way, find something silly about her. Rising your value would help her to fall in love with you. And you having good friends to rely to and hang out on a daily basis will help you be less emotionally dependable on her. Also its important to have hobbies and interests that gives you positive emotions. That what makes your backbone. Having healthy social life and being passionate about other things in your life is what makes you a man that girls want.
I understand that you now have lot of energy to change yourself and you want to be with her. But the changes you make you have to make for yourself not the girl. Otherwise once girl is gone you stop doing these good things for yourself. You know the most important thing is loving yourself and taking care of yourself. By loving yourself its easier to others to fell in love with you.

This could be helpful.

loveforum.net/threads/85674-Guide-on-interacting-with-girls

youtu.be/6Ndw8AJXz9w