Went through a breakup recently, though it was the type that was nearly mutual -- she initiated it -- but I'm pretty sure I could win her back if I was willing to respond to all of her coy questions having to do with my net worth -- I tend to dislike such questions and so I think she began to lose interest when I refused to play her game. In fact, about a month ago, I was strongly considering ending it because I felt like she was interested in my bank account, more than she was in me.
I live in a city with a lot of wealthy people, and a lot of "quick" millionaires due to all of the tech and fortune 500 companies here (Seattle). I've noticed that many of the women I've met, and dated, over the years, have been fairly curious, but as subtly as they can be, to discover what wealth bucket I'm in... and I really hate being evaluated this way. This might be horrible of me to suggest, but I sense that many women in this city feel like they are entitled to find a rich guy.
I've read all of the old trite wisdom about this... women are judged by their physical beauty, and men are judged by the their earning power... but is this really true? ...or is this mainly just true amongst the more shallow members of the human race?
I'm comfortable, I can afford to travel, I own my own house, etc, but I'm not in the top 1%, and I'm not really interested in playing the rat race it would take to get there. I'm probably in the top 10-20%, and that is all I need... I'm fine with it.
I first noticed this when I was complaining about the weather here (Seattle only has 75 nice days a year), and I expressed a desire to someday live in Hawaii. She glommed on to this and wouldn't stop talking about it, and suggested getting a big place on Maui with extra quarters for a caretaker... she said a coworker of hers (she works at Boeing) had just gotten back from Maui and suggested that a place like this would only be about $2M. As she is saying this, I'm thinking to myself.. WTF?!?!? you expect me to be able to buy a $2 million dollar place on Maui?
This might not really be the best forum for this, but I'm interested in what others think about this. Is it normal for women to be this interested in a guy's earning power and net worth? Is Seattle (and possibly other large or affluent cities) just a haven for women like this?