Go to a former crush

[noname123]

Hello,

I had a problem with a former crush, I still liked her in some way when I was with my girlfriend.
YES, I KNOW THAT WAS WRONG! and I experienced the punishment of it, and it still continues!

Someone suggested that I met up with this other person (I hate to see her) to ask her why she didn't want me back then, tell her that I'm successful, that I'm grateful that I didn't date her and that I have a really awesome girlfriend.
It's like saying that I hate her, but with more class

What do you think?

[searock]

Someone suggested that I met up with this other person (I hate to see her) to ask her why she didn't want me back then, tell her that I'm successful, that I'm grateful that I didn't date her and that I have a really awesome girlfriend.

Lol, what purpose would it serve? Is that stuff even true? Doesn't seem like it is.

[noname123]

Lol, what purpose would it serve? Is that stuff even true? Doesn't seem like it is.

If if wouldn't be true I wouldn't go through the trouble and ask this here!

[searock]

Actually, if it were true, you wouldn't waste your time thinking about a "former" crush of yours. You'd be too busy enjoying your happy successful life and awesome relasionship.

[noname123]

I experienced the punishment of it, and it still continues!

means, that we're fighting about this often, like right now!
we're in a long distance relationship!

this was suggested as a test for me and to say that I hate this other person

[Archie]

When you got together with your current girlfriend, assuming she's still with you, did you still feel the same way towards your crush from a time-ago, or did this feeling pop up just recently?
If you felt that way all along, then my guess is that you just needed someone to replace her with and now you realize that this isn't what you wanted.

Walking up to your former crush and saying: "Yo you ho, how you been? I'm great now. I've got me a hot ass chick and she ain't nuthin' like you, hope you weep in your sheet and regret what you decide'. Thanks for showin' m the kinda' chick I should avoid. Now I met the girl of ma' dreams, yow. Finally I say, without a hitch in ma' rhyme. I'm through with you!" - Won't do jack. The only thing you'll accomplish is you'll make her hate you and that's gonna eat you up from the inside even more.

[noname123]

When you got together with your current girlfriend, assuming she's still with you, did you still feel the same way towards your crush from a time-ago, or did this feeling pop up just recently?
If you felt that way all along, then my guess is that you just needed someone to replace her with and now you realize that this isn't what you wanted.

Walking up to your former crush and saying: "Yo you ho, how you been? I'm great now. I've got me a hot ass chick and she ain't nuthin' like you, hope you weep in your sheet and regret what you decide'. Thanks for showin' m the kinda' chick I should avoid. Now I met the girl of ma' dreams, yow. Finally I say, without a hitch in ma' rhyme. I'm through with you!" - Won't do jack. The only thing you'll accomplish is you'll make her hate you and that's gonna eat you up from the inside even more.

yes we're still together, but we're in a fight.
i don't even wanna see this other girl, thats why I broke up the contact with her years ago

[searock]

noname123, I really don't understand why you think that seeing the old crush is going to make things in any way better for you. Care to explain?

[noname123]

noname123, I really don't understand why you think that seeing the old crush is going to make things in any way better for you. Care to explain?

like i mentioned before, it was an idea of someone we (me and gf) know.
this someone meant its some sort of a test for me to see if I'm over her; but in my opinion. i don't think that's a good idea, especially that I don't wanna see this other girl

[searock]

So you think that seeing her again will help you understand whether you are over her or not.

I think you already know the answer to that question.

[noname123]

So you think that seeing her again will help you understand whether you are over her or not.

wrong again
the fourth party, who suggested that idea, thinks that, not me
I don't even wanna see her, why do I wanna see someone I broke contact with years ago?

the problem is, my gf wants to love away (according to the 4th party) next Sunday. to prevent that a deal was created, I talk to this person and my gf will be stopped from moving away

it's a lose-lose situation, either I talk to her and my gf will learn about it and get really angry
or I lie about the talk and the 4th party will find out and won't help our relationship

[searock]

wrong again
the fourth party, who suggested that idea, thinks that, not me
I don't even wanna see her, why do I wanna see someone I broke contact with years ago?

Then why are you asking us? You already know that you don't want to do it. o.O

the problem is, my gf wants to love away (according to the 4th party) next Sunday. to prevent that a deal was created, I talk to this person and my gf will be stopped from moving away

Who is this 4th party that controls your gf's whereabouts? Why does your gf want to move away? How can the 4th party prevent her from moving away?