Originally Posted by
Chris_lo
But should I? am I overreacting?
If you're not going to break up with her for allowing a guy to be disrespectful to her and subsequently YOU and your relationship in general then the least you could do for yourself is tell her that accepting disrespectful sexual texts from another man when you're in a monogamous, committed relationship is against a very fundamental relationship boundary and ask her to shut him down or its a deal breaker for you and you're outta there.
You can say it calmly and matter of factly because that is just how it is. If she keeps it up then ditch her.
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If guys before her were afraid to voice their displeasure about her conduct then she probably doesn't know any better. Educate her and then see how that works out. You can't make her stop but you can tell her what is a deal breaker for you and if she's not got the same boundaries then you know you're with the wrong person and you can dump her knowing you've done the right thing. When a couple have completely different relationship boundaries it will NEVER last so get her on board or throw her overboard. One or the other.
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion