I don't know if I am to blame for the horrible ending that I had with the guy I was seeing today. I interpreted his behavior as not being into me at all, and that he was lying to me and stringing me along. But he says that he wasn't and that my claims are bogus. I haven't dated a lot and I don't know what's normal, so maybe I can tell you about how it was, and you guys can tell me??
1. He said he didn't want a committed relationship right now. Which was ok with me. I told him my expectations and he agreed to them. We were seeing each other, and he said he was seeing no one else besides me.
2. I only saw him once a week because he said he was too busy/didn't have enough money/lived too far away. We also both live with our family so none of us had our own place.
3. He never initiated calling me...he did text from time to time, but they conversation never went anywhere
4. He was nearly impossible to reach on the weekends, due to being busy. If I asked him to do something, he wouldn't get back to me for hours later, and it was usually a no.
5. Evertime he wanted to see me, it was last minute...like literally he would ask what are you doing now
6. I agreed to a sexual relationship with him...but we never had sex. Mostly because of him. He seemed content for me to give him oral. He never really initiated kissing, and sometimes he would forget to pleasure me.
7. He would return texts the next day, or sometimes would not answer them at all, and expected me to be ok with this
8. If I wanted to talk to him, it was nearly impossible. He was hard to reach by phone, and didn't respond well to long texts...it would be so frustrating just trying simply talk to him.
9. He never complimented me, told me what he enjoyed about me, he never made me feel wanted.
10. I would try to flirt with him, sending pics/sexts and he wouldn't respond very enthusiastically, or would respond hours later.
11. He would go out of town consistently without telling me he had left, and wouldn't mention when he was coming back
12. If we disagreed on something it was never a discussion, he would just stop talking to me and ignore any attempts for me to reconcile or apologize even if things weren't my fault. and Even when if I begged him to just reply and told him that he was hurting me by ignoring me and not saying anything at all. .
I know some of you guys would say that he wanted something casual and that I was trying to make it more than it was without him knowing. But I promise you that was not the case. He agreed to my expectations that we would only see each other, we would hang out and talk often, and that we were seeing each other exclusively sexually so we can be open and honest about it. I wasn't expecting anything more than what he agreed to, so please do not tell me I was looking for a serious relationship. I told him if my expectations were too high, or simply could not do it, he can just tell me and we could stop and be friends. But he always said that he wanted to do this with me. I would look at his actions and tell him I wanted to stop, but he would always say I was assuming too much and making him a bad guy when he wasn't. 'So I'd continuously go back. Is he right? Are these behaviors normal??