Wakeups point is that men will tell a woman he has slept with "he loves her" in order to keep the door open for next time...
Yes, I know you are going to think "oh that's not me... its different. We are good friends". But you need to be realistic here. You said he's lived a bachelor, playboy life. If he really had a thing for you all these years, don't you think he would have found a way to stay in touch?
Sorry, but I'm not convinced he's really that into you. It seems to me you are looking for validation that you want to be the one who will "change him"... to domesticate him. But from everything you posted, he sounds like a commitment-phobe to me. Why didn't he commit to his last GF of 4 years? It sounds like she was a decent gal... but he stringed her along.
Yeah. Keep your expectations in check on this one.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh