Originally Posted by
Vertigo
And Im clearly in the minority in this opinion, but I am not so cynical as to think everyone thinks with their dicks all the time.
This is not only about sex and thinking with one's dick. It's about emotional affairs{ that occur and have so many times just by going by what happens in these forums as well as online advisers giving councel about this very subject)that drive a wedge between the connection that the primary partners once enjoyed ` which kept them happy and bonded as a couple.
I for example have a very low sex drive as are MANY others which makes friendship with other sex's fine.
Once again you are forgetting emotional affairs and dependence on your "friend" that becomes inappropriate and disrespectful to your partner.
Not everyone cares about relationships in the love sense. People hold friendships to very high value too. Sure, some people end up falling for others like you guys apparently seem to have personally observed,
Being well read and much older then you helps see things more clearly then what you're seeing. Have you ever had a long term, committed relationship with someone and you doing one-on-one date like activities was fine with your SIGNIFICANT other?
Once again its not about finding out if you will or you won't, it's about leaving yourself open to it which makes the chance of it "will" happen much greater then it "won't" It's called personal boundaries and having respect for your partner.
How can you claim there are no such thing as males and females being friends in 7 billion people?? Thats beyond ridiculous.
I haven't claimed that there is 'no such thing' I've claimed that it is disrespectful and it crosses a very fundamental relationship boundary to be hanging out one-on-one doing date like activities with your opposite sex friend when you are in a relationship. The dynamic of your friendship should change once you are in relationship to include your partner into your friendship and not exclude them while you "date" your buddy. O.O
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... and after all that I apologize for mistakenly answering something that wasn't address to me but since I took so much trouble to do it... I'm not going to delete it.
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