So here is the story of my life, or atleast my relationship life, for the last couple years. I'll start off with a little history before I get into my problem, and I'll try to keep fairly concise. BTW, I'm 23 (male), she's is 20.
Three years ago I met this girl and fell head over heels for her in love with her. We were together for about a year, things went great, then she had to move about 400 miles away. We stayed together long distance after she left, and we'd see each other once a month or so. The plan was for her to move back as soon as she could, hopefully after just a few months. Things didn't end up working out. Six months later she still hadn't come back, and things started falling apart. She had been lying to me about a lot of things after she had left, and she had sex with another guy. Before she had left, I told her the only way I could never be with her was if she ever slept with another guy, so since she had, at that point I was done with the relationship and there was no looking back. But just because I couldn't be with her, didn't mean I didn't still love her and care about her.
It's been almost two years since the break up, and over a year since I've even seen her. Problem is, I'm still not over her. I could never be with her again after she lied to me and cheated on me, but I still love her and care about her just as much as the day she left. Yes, it's been two years and I'm still not over a girl that lied to me and cheated on me.
My problem is that now, even two years after we broke up, I still can't feel anything for any other girl. I've dated a couple other girls this last year, and was even in a relationship for four months, but no matter what I do I don't get feelings for these other girls. The last girl I was with, the one I was in a relationship with for four months, was the perfect girl. She was a student, had a good job, really smart, sweet, absolutely beautiful, and awesome in the bedroom. She was everything I could have wanted in a girl... and in our four months together I never once had emotional feelings towards her.
I try and I try, but no matter what I do, or how perfect of a girl I find, I don't have any emotional feelings them. That is any girl except for the one who lied to me and cheated on me and I haven't even seen for over a year.
I know that I'm never going the be with this girl, and I've accepted that, but I still haven't been able to get over her. I guess I've gotten her out of my head, but I haven't gotten her out of my heart. I want to move on, but I don't know how to get her out of my heart so I can have feelings for another girl. Any thoughts or advice is appreciated. Thanks.
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