So desperately in love that I wanna cease to exist...

[Alberto]

Here's my story:

I had been dating my ex-gf for 7 years, I had proposed to her and things were going fine until I had a bit of crisis in my family life & my ex preferred cheating on me with a mutual friend instead of helping me out.
I was devastated but tried hard to make it work, eventually I realized she does not want to change anything & we broke up. This is when I got close to one of her friends, she was always on my side while struggling with my ex, she made me feel great when I was down & everything.
She told me she wants to help me get back on my feet. she told me how amazing I am & how ungrateful my ex is to do such thing to me, we started hanging out and things were going amazing, I have seen her in different life situations & I really think she is my soul mate. I could sense we were getting close, we used to hold hands, cuddle, spend time together & I was truly happy, we used to hangout at least twice weekly.

But there's no happy ending for me. I had not told anybody about my ex cheating, she begged me not to and I did so. But when she saw me hanging out with her friend, she started spreading the word to put all the blame on her & from that moment, things got worse everyday.

Now I am truly in love with both heart & mind but she is avoiding me. We hardly see each other & when we do, she won't look me in the eyes anymore. I told her how I feel about her but then she denied having feelings for me. She even says she was hesitant before but didn't want to tell me, the point is, she was the one who first started cuddling!

She has told me different reasons about her behavior:
She doesn't want to be the one who tore our life apart.
She cannot be happy with me when her friend is in agony (which is over now, she is already moving in with another guy)
She thinks I should behave more firmly & hangout with my male friends more often to be more attractive.
She thinks I am not her type (that's the opposite of what she used to tell me & how we used to click)

I am devastated & can't stop thinking about her, I think she has started dating other people in past two months, although she has broken up with them in matter of days, I can't get this terrible feeling out. Even thinking about her being with others makes me want to cease to exist...

What's with her? Why is she acting like this? What can I do to win her back?

[Alberto]

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[lost_man]

Sorry buddy but you sound pretty needy to me, girls will often like it when they can mother a guy for a while but eventually it will get on their nerves. You need to forget about both girls and work on your self esteem so that you see women as partners not as some mythical bandage for your soul.