Because I got no replies to my other post, I will try a poll. Would you call your friend and tell him what you saw in this situation?
My 2 very good longtime friends saw my wife at a bar 50 miles from my house with a guy, turns out he is gay and she was there with a group of others but my friends did not know this. When they saw her she seemed to them a bit shocked and she said the guy was her "sponsor", which they also found odd because she is not in AA. She left quickly after talking to them and they did not see her again. They were not sure what to do but decided to call me because the situation seemed very unusual. They told me they did not want to cause problems or accuse her of cheating but they felt they should tell me what they saw.
I later confronted her and told her I suspected she was cheating because she at first refused to tell me where she had been and we had been fighting the last 3 days. I later accepted her explanation and told her I did not think she was cheating. (She has falsely accused me of cheating at least 50 times in the past and I have almost never accused her)
She is now very upset with my friends because she thinks they accused her or insinuated she was cheating. She is upset with me because she says I am not loyal to her, and says I must choose between her and my 2 friends. I already told them she was not cheating and am not sure what else I can or should do.
The question is whether my friends were wrong to call me.