Money issues.....

[BlackRose]

One of the reasons I dumped my girl is because of money issues. I would have to pay for everything and I felt USED... I think a relationship should consist of the couple paying for things like 50/50 (like I buy her something, and then she buys me something.) But it wasn't this way with her.

Does anyone else feel this way, I hope you guys out there aren't letting your girls take adavanage of your money...I certainly felt b!tch whipped, and i put that to an end

You dumped her because you thought she was using you? Did you ever bring this up with her? Did you ever hint that you were low on cash? I mean you can't expect her to read you mind. Sounds to me like you were looking for any excuse to dump her. Unless you talked to her and she said something like "you should be paying for me...." then you really didn't do the right thing.

[blahblah209]

I feel the same way about things being 50/50 because its nt a freaking marrage...I meen I know she loves me though... I'm not gonna give details but yeah I now she does....She is just use to it because her ex b/f got all his money from mama and he didnt care how much he spent...I think love is something that just happens not something that should be bought.I meen even if she paid for herself once in a while when I'm running low would help..you know? I know I dont buy her love but its just annoying when she expects it all the time she even pulls the i forgot my wallet thing all the time. Check my post and help me.

[Illusional]

haha i just replied to your thread blah blah, and i was thinking you two should talk.

raverboy

[TanItalian]

haha i just replied to your thread blah blah, and i was thinking you two should talk.

raverboy

Oh yes we talked, and she still didnt think she did anything wrong when i had like no cash

[misombra]

did you tell her that you feel like she's taking advantage of you making you pay for everything? if not then do it!

[Illusional]

italian.. no no, i was mentioning the poster who posted before me. his sn is blahblah209. nevermind talking to your gf is she's not willing to see things from your angle.

raverboy

[blauw]

"The I forgot my wallet"
One time can happen ... but 3-4 times ...
I'd personally Tell her first.
That doesn't help ... I'd end the relationship.
I agree it doesn't have to be 50/50, but the partner has to got the brain for paying for stuff aswell.

Maybe u can do a "jarr".
Each week u both put 10 $ in it ( for example )
with that money u pay when u go out ...

Greets

[shh!]

Really, your continual insistence on the 50/50 thing suggests perhaps you are not ready for a relationship yet. Everyone knows that this expectation is not the basis for a good relationship and things are never exactly equal. There are going to be periods where one person is doing more "giving" than the other, and then the situation reverses. Repeatedly emphasizing 50/50 implies you are not willing to be generous for its own sake because you are too busy keeping track of what is "owed" you. Maybe your girlfriend has a point. (This does not negate the fact that she may ALSO be deficient in her generosity.)

[Illusional]

at the same time, one does get tired of being the only person that does all the paying.

raverboy