Originally Posted by
Lilia
Ok I see that dating is not a game to you. But for most guys dating certainly is a game. Even if they don't admit it, it's a game for them, a chase, a challenge and a competition for a prize. Not just 2 people getting to know each other and seeing what they have in common while having fun and getting intimate.
How long have you been seeing that fancy guy? Only 3 dates?
It is good to have standards(it's essential) but if it started as a casual sex thing, and then you suddenly tell him off that he isn't doing what you expect him to be doing in a relationship (or just in general), wouldn't it shock any guy? He doesn't even see it as a relationship yet, he's probably just trying the waters and tests your reactions. (he might be doing it subconsciously or consciously as well).
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BTW why can't a game be fun too? It doesn't have to be stressful.
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It's totally up to you but this is what I would do:
Tease him, flirt with him, make it fun, always give him less than he asks for, make him dream about you when he goes to bed and test him. and DO NOT ALWAYS BE AVAILABLE TO HIM. Do not confront him if he's moving too slow unless he cancels the date when you are leaving home, or always changes plans. All plans should be made 1 day in advance. If you keep it simple like this, he will be the first one who tries to move things faster cos he;ll see you as a woman of high value and think that he's challenged to win you.
Give it some time and then if it's not going anywhere put him in the last position on a list of your priorities and keep seeing new people. Sometimes it works and a guy changes. but if he doesn't, he is not worth you.
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I've been on dating sites and I know that feeling, when you are not attracted to anyone there. But even if you find an attractive person there, you can't even tell if there'd be chemistry between you and him in real life. So you can't be truly attracted to ANYONE on a dating site. You only meet a person to see if there's chemistry. I believe that if you met some of those guys who you never replied to, there might be a spark and attraction. But you can never tell which ones, cos you can;t see how a person smiles, talks, moves unless you see them in person. ANd this is a huge disadvantage of on-line dating. I;d try skyping with a guy before you go on a date with him to see if there's any potential.
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It's good that you find some cyclists hot.=) You can try to make a small talk with a guy you like, like asking where he bought his bike, what brand it is, ets. Or just stop and pretend like something in your bike broke and you are trying to figure what it was exactly. I bet lot's of men will fly like bees on honey when they see it.