Hello,
Just signed up, wanting to what you think of my friend's open relationship and the reasons for why she has agreed to it.
Placing this in context, my friend has been with her boyfriend for 6 years and she told me back in May that they have decided to be in an open relationship. Now, from what I've gathered from our conversations about this, she has agreed to this because she is adamant that monogamy doesn't work, it's not natural and that cheating is inevitable, so it's best to just open up the relationship so that she knows what is going on rather than him doing it behind her back.
To me that's a terrible reason to have an open relationship. I personally don't think that open relationships work anyway but to do it for that reason?!
I get the feeling that she's worried that he's feeling sexually stifled and she doesn't want to lose him so instead has agreed for him to go off with other girls so that he can get his fix and she keeps her relationship. I asked her if she wants to go off with other men in this open relationship but she said no, she just wants to be with him. It's him that wants to go off with other girls. She just wants him.
She's someone with very low self-confidence and is has a lot of insecurities and I think it's a great shame that she feels like she has to do this to keep her relationship.
I realise that there is nothing I can do and I don't want to interfere, but what do you lot think about this situation?