I'm 31 years old, female. I've never had any negative sexual experiences, or been molested or abused. I am a bit shy with my body.
I've never liked sex, I'd even go so far as to say I kinda hate it. I find it a pain because it always creates insecurities and tensions for me, as I know guys just love sex. And I never get anything out of it. Thing is, its never felt that good for me. Orgasms are nice but I can do that myself. I know I'm "tilted" but that really shouldn't matter, it just means some positions are uncomfortable. I do have depressive tendancies but not enough for that to be the cause.
I'm never horny (unless I'm hungover) and only sometimes will watch porn by myself.
My current partner of around 3 years is an angel, never pushes me for sex, I don't think hes ever even initiated! I don't think he has a high sex requirement but obviously he does need it, as every male does. We only do it about once every 2 months, I could happily go without. I feel like I wouldn't even mind if he slept with someone else so he gets what he needs!
With a new relationship obviously its so much better and more exciting, but never mind blowing and I hate it if it goes on too long. I love it when guys come quickly so its over with. I watch movie scenes where they're panting and sweating and feel so inadequate and jealous.
A close friend said you need to be really turned on and well lubricated, even when I'm wet I dry up pretty quick during sex cause it doesn't feel good. I've never had a partner that has spent a lot of time turning me on, after so long I feel I can't be bothered trying new things.
Can anyone relate or offer advice? Do I need to experiment more with myself to find out what works? Do I need to take horny pills? Do I need to see a doctor?
Please, please serious answers only.
THANKYOU!