Mixed signals from ex-girlfriend

[Dante9]

Hi everyone, thanks in advance for reading this. I'll try to keep it short.

My ex-girlfriend and I broke up about 2 years ago for a bunch of little reasons that just added up to the point that it couldn't work anymore. We share the same friends so we kept seeing each other from time to time, and eventually she got a new boyfriend. They were together for 1.5 years and just broke up about 2 months ago. We're both in our mid 20s.

Shortly after, she started to slowly ramp up some major signs of interest toward me. We've always had pretty strong chemistry and get along very well so that's not really surprising. Anyway, the signs of interest kept building more and more each day, with her texting me nonstop and trying to find excuses for us to hang out, even going so far as to suggest we start a business together (I know, that's weird). Even our friends kept telling me that we're most definitely going to get back together based on the way we we're acting. The thing is, any time we go out it's always on her terms. If she wants to go to dinner, we go. If I invite her to do something, she gives me some bull**** excuse like she has to go grocery shopping or clean her house.

Last week we went to dinner, had a few drinks, then she invited me back to her place. I absolutely did not want to have sex since it's still pretty early and I think it's important that we take it slowly since I don't want to ruin the social dynamic with our friends. We held hands, cuddled, and watched some movies. I spent the night since I had a few too many drinks but I just stayed on the couch while she went to bed.

The next day, she did a 180 and everything was completely different. From there on out, she stopped texting as much and it has now trickled down to almost no contact from her at all. If I initiate contact, she replies enthusiastically and everything but seems to purposely cut the conversation short. I asked if she wanted to see a movie last night to test the waters and she said she had too much to do around the house. This kind of behavior has gone on for about a week now and she's getting more and more distant even though I've given her plenty of space...which I realize is probably hard to believe based on how badly I'm nitpicking this whole situation.

A few days earlier I was out with her and some of our friends and she snapped at me pretty hard for no apparent reason. Like I'd just be sitting there talking to someone and she'd yell at me for rambling or being too loud. She also made it a point to not laugh at my jokes like she's trying to prove a point or something. But then we went out with our friends last night and she was back to being nice and even a little flirtatious again. She has fluctuated back and forth from anger to indifference toward me and it's getting pretty confusing when you compare it to how interested in me she's acted the last couple of months.

Any insight or a plan of action would be greatly appreciated. Thanks again for taking the time to read this!

[Wakeup]

You are still not getting along due to "little things." I have to ask you why you're even attempting anything romantic with her? You'd have been completely over her by now (after two years) if you had NOTHING to do with her, went cold turkey withdrawl from having her in your life and starting doing things for yourself that did not include her.

You and she are NOT MEANT TO BE LIFE partners. If you were, you'd be getting on with it and you'd not be apart due to more "little things."

Go zero contact and wash that twit right our of your hair for GOOD. It's only then that you'll be open enough in heart and mind to find a good partner for you that you get along with. NO woman will be Okay with you hanging out with a past lover so sever the friend ship altogether and get moving on with your life instead of stagnating in this confusing hell you are in with someone you have no business with.

Look after yourself. What you're doing with her is NOT looking after you.