Hi I just registered but there is something that's seriously been bothering me lately and i needed some place to vent
A couple of years ago I joined a music forum to chat about my then favorite band. From that forum i have a lot of friends who i still keep in contact with.
1.5 years ago, one of my friends from that forum suggested I should talk to a friend of hers, a guy from Germany. He had some romantical troubles and apparently she thought I'm good at giving advice hehe.
So we started talking online a lot and we realized quickly that we have so much in common, it's crazy. So we pretended we were siblings, just for fun, he called me sister and I called him brother etc.
However I felt that this was the guy of my dreams, like he was my soulmate.
But I didn't think I'd have a chance with him because I couldn't detect any kind of romantic affection from his side so I just kept trying to see him as my brother.
About two months ago I had a bit too much to drink and I decided to confess to him how I felt, just to get it out. It turned out he's in love with me too and this shocked me, I really had no clue.
Now the problem is... I have a boyfriend. And I am in love with him too. I somehow completely forgot this when I decided to confess to my "brother" how I felt, I don't know what got into me.
Now this boyfriend of mine, we've basically been on and off for 2.5 years, breaking up, getting back together.
I've always known that he's the one I want right now but I can't see us settling down together in the future.
Three weeks from now I will be going to amsterdam and it turned out my "brother" will be there too and we decided to meet up and go to a concert. Nothing romantical will happen, I'm sure, because we're both very shy and he just got out of a stormy relationship, plus, we live in different countries and it would be difficult to start anything.
However my conscience is eating me up because I'm in love with both of them and I feel like such a selfish bitch but I just really don't want to break up with my very nice boyfriend before I have even met the other guy, a guy I probably can't be with at the moment anyways.
It's just..... ugh.