Hey ladies, new guy here. I have a question for only people who have had to deal with issue in their relationship, past or present. To spare the long details, my ex girlfriend was date raped a few months before we dated back in November. She found out she was pregnant by the person and due to self preservation she chose not to report it to her superiors (she's in a Navy ROTC unit and another unit member committed the act), and she in turn got an abortion. In December we had met and not too long after that became friends and then started to date, but since then she's always had to force herself into being intimate and affectionate and she hasn't ever gotten over what happened to her because she had always hoped she could forget about it, and never had time to herself to cope, but now its a lot worse and she told me what had happened, but never told me her true honest feelings until the other night. She said its gotten to the point that she hates herself for what has happened and that she's been so unhappy that she's taken it out on our relationship and it's made me unhappy in turn. So pretty much she felt that us breaking up after almost 10 months was necessary for her to more or less find herself and find her happiness. We have talked some since then, and she finally admitted she needs help and will seek professional counseling. And I want to be there for her as much as I can for a friend, but there is still that part of me that knows me and her can work and get back together, maybe not right now, but one day. I know not to overstep any boundaries and to keep it just strictly a friendship, but is there anyone who has had to deal with this and if so, how did your guy help you through it? We both still love and care about each other deeply but she just can't bring herself to having a relationship. I don't blame her for anything and have never judged her for what had happened. I still love her just as much as I did. I just want to do what I can and do whats best for her and I'm willing to help her as much as she'll allow me to help her get through this tough time. Thank you.