I will try to make this as short as possible. I won't go into all the details, but about two years ago I met a guy that I fell for very quickly. He was everything I was looking for- had a good job, great personality, was the same age as me, I was attracted to him, etc. We started seeing each other and I truly pictured myself being with this man and taking things to the next level. There were some "red flags" but this man always had an excuse for them. He told me one day that was going through a tough divorce and wanted to take things slow during this time. Ok, fine. I truly believed that he was interested in me but wanted to take things slow because of his "divorce". I thought after a few months once he had his life back together, we would end up together and our relationship would progress. We saw each other often, and always had a great time together. Then one day I found pictures of him on the internet. He wasn't "going through a divorce" at all- he had a serious girlfriend that he was living with. They traveled together, did "couples" things together, etc. All the while he was seeing me on the side and had no intention of actually being with me. I was incredibly hurt and angry when I found the pictures. His girlfriend by the way is about 15 years younger than him also. Anyway I ended up calling his girlfriend at work and told her that he was seeing someone else. She of course had no idea that I existed. That happened about a year ago. I did not speak to this man since then and he ended up getting married to this girl. Recently he started contacting me again. He told me that he misses me, and that he thinks about me all the time. He texts me all the time and I have hooked up with him several times already. I'm so confused by this entire situation. I am assuming that he is just using me like he was before. But when I'm with him, he's so sweet and I almost feel like we are dating. I know this sounds really pathetic, but I really wish that he would leave his wife for me. I want to be the woman that his family and friends know about, that spends the holidays with him, etc. It hurts me that I'm "kept in the shadows" and someone else is living with him, and building a life with him when he contacts me so often and spends time with me. I don't understand what she has that I don't and why when he could have been with me, he chose her. Part of me wants to call his wife and tell her but I know it would destroy her to find out that he's cheating on her. What does this man really think of me and what should I do? Should I just cut him out of my life completely? Yes, this story does sound pathetic, but I would like to know what men think of this situation. Also, I think its caused me to have less trust for men in general.