Advice Please!

[TayJay]

So I had a first date today with a girl from my college (she's a freshman, I'm a senior). To be frank, I'm not sure how it went. She got to the coffee place early- I got there 5 minutes early and she was already there, drinking coffee...I would've bought one for her if she hadn't already. We only did small talk for like 20-25 minutes and then I walked her down to the gym because she had to go to a yoga class. It makes me kinda curious as to why she said she was free to meet up if she really didn't have too much time. So I wouldn't say the date went *badly*...there was no awkward silence, but it just got cut off early since she had to leave. As she went into the gym for her class, I asked for her number and she gave it to me. Then she said she was late for the class so she left. So there wasn't really a conclusion.

I'm not sure what to think. Should I text her today (as a means to give her my number), asking if she wants to meet up again this weekend? If so, should it be coffee again? A movie? Something else? Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks!

[aprilshowers]

How long ago was the coffee? I would say wait a few hours and give her a text and say hi and that you enjoyed seeing her and would love to meet up again if she would like to. If she gives some excuses and tries to not make a date then I would leave it for a few more days, give it one more try and see. As a girl myself I think it is a good idea to keep the first date short in case it does not go so well. Best of luck

[TayJay]

It was just about an hour and a half ago. If she's interested in meeting up again, would you recommend something over the weekend like a movie? By the way, just to give a little more background, we were acquaintances before and the first time I met her was actually when she was a senior in high school and I was a junior in college- I was her tour guide, and her family really liked me. Then I saw her and her family again a few days ago (her family came to visit), and after they left that's when I asked her out.

[aprilshowers]

What kind of signs did she give? Did she smile and seem interested in the conversation etc? These are all good signs. A movie date is not a great place to get to know someone because you can't really talk without someone hushing you and sometimes us girls feel awkward in the dark with someone we don't know so well. How about a nice little restaurant for lunch or dinner? We do not expect to be taken somewhere fancy but just somewhere with a nice atmosphere where it is not too loud. A little picnic lunch (not the whole basket thingie) in the park. A trip to a flea market. Something like that. I am european so maybe we expect different things LOL

[TayJay]

I wouldn't say she gave particularly strong signals. It felt like just a couple of friends chatting. It was pleasant, but didn't feel very date-like, you know? I'm just a bit confused because I can't make out how I think it went lol. I wouldn't say we made a strong connection, but it wasn't awkward either. Like I said, it was just like two friends chatting for a bit. Maybe lunch during the weekend would be the best option.

[aprilshowers]

Yeah and go somewhere where you do not wait ages for service etc and that way if it feels awkward none of you will have to stay for too long. As a girl though I think she must like you at least a bit because if we are totally not interested in someone we don't even meet them for coffee :-)

[TayJay]

Okay, so I'll text her tonight and ask her if she wants to meet up again, and if she does I'll suggest we meet at a nice little cafe for lunch this weekend. Thanks for your opinion, I appreciate it. Do you mind if I PM you in the future? You seem really helpful!

[aprilshowers]

Go ahead that is no problem. Fingers crossed for you. Off to bed now. Let me know how it goes.

[TayJay]

I texted her if she wanted to meet up later this week and that i knew of a good cafe in town. She said "this week isn't good but I'll let you know!" ...do you think that means she's not interested?

[davidmartin]

I wouldn't say she gave particularly strong signals. It felt like just a couple of friends chatting. It was pleasant, but didn't feel very date-like, you know? I'm just a bit confused because I can't make out how I think it went lol. I wouldn't say we made a strong connection, but it wasn't awkward either. Like I said, it was just like two friends chatting for a bit. Maybe lunch during the weekend would be the best option.

Ur over thinking it! try to make light of the situation. Send her a kind of jokey/cool message saying "man that was great! you're pretty intimidating in person but i think i did fine didn't i hm? lol"

[moneyspills]

Good situation here. As a girl though I think she must like you at least a bit because if we are totally not interested in someone we don't even meet them for coffee



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