The first step in finding the man of your dreams, is being able to identify guys who are 'Not-Worth-It'. The most important thing is not to waste time with not-wort-its, because life is short and the world is big. So time is of the essence.
How do you know a guy is not worth it? simple, the suffering you reap is greater than the reward, if you feel like counseling is needed, obviously, you are suffering, and this guy isn't worth it.
Considering that there is a man out there whom you haven't met yet, who wants to love and support you in becoming the woman you want to become, whom you will love and respect, don't you think it's unfair to waste time with this guy?
It sounds mean, but you really should let that other woman have him, then wash you hands of it and he can be her problem.
This guy is not a prize.
There is no prize for losing.
Take care!
“Love is the ultimate outlaw. It just won't adhere to any rules. The most any of us can do is to sign on as its accomplice. Instead of vowing to honor and obey, maybe we should swear to aid and abet. That would mean that security is out of the question. The words "make" and "stay" become inappropriate. My love for you has no strings attached. I love you for free.”
― Tom Robbins, Still Life with Woodpecker