Need Help

[mjlittlewood15]

Hi All

very long story, recently broke up with girlfriend but we have decided to give things another try but for the moment are together in secret as dont want to tell all our familys again as it was a messy breakup, we have both said when the times right we would both tell our familys and we know they will come round as they know we are great together. I know everybody always says theres plenty more fish in the sea and all that but with us we both know we only want eachother, we have been together 2 years and we are best friends and most definitely soul mates and want to be together forever, we have exactly the same interests and we tell eachother absolutely everything, and when we was both younger we both had a form of cancer so we have a bond we will share forever, and bottom line i know we are meant to be and so does she, so please dont leave comments saying otherwise. but the big problem we are facing that has been an issue for some time is income, i work as an it technician for a secondary school and earn around 14k and she is at universuty studying to be a nurse and she will walk into a job on 20k when she qualifies next year, and she is worried that i wont be earning enough money for us both to move out together, i really want to get a better job but i currently have a loan and am a bit worried about leaving for another job incase it doesnt work out then im stuck with a loan i have to pay with no income, im just scared im going to lose her if i havent found a job by that time, we both want this more than anything and im scared as i am the one who needs to change and get a better job, i want to be able to support my girlfriend and be able to provide for her and possibly children in the future, and be able to do all the things we want to do in life, i love my girlfriend soooo much i would do anything for her, she said while we were apart for a couple of weeks that her friend had said that we have something so special you will spend your life searching for for somebody like him and never find it, i have treated her with nothing but love and respect from the start, we waited 3 months to sleep together as i didnt want to rush into anything as i genuinely wanted to get to know her and wanted her to know i wasnt in it for that, i just want to make her happy and will do anything to do that.

[woody]

Good on you both for recognizing your unique connection and I find it all very sweet... I must say though, usually one's significant other doesn't leave due to the other not making enough money and I think your over thinking this aspect.
She loves you right? So why would you think or be worried about not earning enough? You both have jobs and your young, lots of time to upgrade and earn more if you like. Many, many people live on much much less than the numbers you brought up and if there's love and will, there's a way...

Why you two keeping the re union from the Family? Messy break up? Mind me asking how messy or why?

Aside from that, stop stressing out over money problems. It's like your worried about a tree growing before its seed has even been planted. If your soul mates as you say, nothing will deter the two of you.