Originally Posted by
TheEvilJester
I know it can be hard to give up on somebody, especially when you two are already so close. Sadly, it seems like that would be in your best interest in this situation. I guess it might benefit you to talk to him about your feelings first. Let him know how you feel and hopefully he feels the same. Better, I suppose, than just living in doubt. At least then you will know.
However, if he is not interested in you as more than friends, then his actions toward you are HIGHLY inappropriate and entirely unfair. His actions and words you describe DO NOT say "just friends." In fact, they very heavily imply more. So, if he is hung up on some other girl, then it sounds to me like he is playing you. You deserve a man, not a boy. It is NOT okay for him, or anybody for that matter, to play with your heart.
Might I also add.... what kind of disgusting scuzzball would actually tell a girl he does THAT to her pictures? I mean, am I just being a prude or something? Don't get me wrong, I'm sure A LOT of people do that, but I sure as heck assume they don't feel the need to share it with anybody. Especially not the object of their self gratification. That's the sort of thing that should be private to yourself and nobody else. Is that not evidence enough that you need a man in your life and not an overgrown child?
I don't know, maybe I'm being overly harsh/cynical. I'm not called "The Evil Jester" for nothing. I've been through enough in life that I find it hard to trust anybody, because humans so rarely prove worthy of trust. Still, I really don't think I am being too cynical here. I think you deserve somebody who will treat you like a queen. Somebody who will treat you like a priority, not an option. It is not okay for him to toy with your emotions like this. So, if he CAN be the guy to treat you like his prize, then great. If not, then you need to move on.
As difficult as it may seem, if he can't see you as anything more than friends, you will only be doing yourself great undue harm by remaining friends with him. It sounds obvious that you cannot see being just his friend. So, if you try you will likely just keep yourself from other possible relationships that could turn out to be the real thing. You deserve the chance to find that special someone, whether it is him or not. Good luck!