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Thread: Flaws in PUA

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    Flaws in PUA

    After an unsuccessful attempt at dating a coworker (long story), I started looking up a lot of the "PUA" stuff online.

    Some of the basics make sense - confidence, being funny and just a bit cocky, etc. Really I've had reasonable success with women in my short life so far (I'm 25) but thought "hey, why not?"

    However, it seems like this stuff is based on some incorrect assumptions:

    1. That all men want the exact same type of woman. It seems to presume that the only type of woman a man wants is the stereotypically hot clubber/party girl type. Personally, I like the quieter, gamer/geek type girls myself.
    2. That all women are ragingly horny at all times, and all will have sex with you the first night, if only you have the right game. This is completely false. Some women are waiting for marriage, some only have sex after a while in a relationship. I'm not saying that a smooth guy can't make some leeway in this regard, but it's not even close to 100% despite the claims of some of these PUA guys.
    3. That all men fall into Alpha or Beta categories. Personally, I think most successful men have some Alpha traits and some Beta traits, and can use both as needed, when needed. A completely "Alpha" guy (if it exists) might get laid a lot, but probably can't hold down a good, stable relationship long term, and a pure "Beta" (if that indeed exists) might have good success once he finally lands a woman, but probably lacking in the sex department with that woman compared to where he'd prefer to be.
    4. That all women want the same things in a man, and respond to the same things.

    I really think I've been doing just fine all along, aside from a short dry spell (the coworker thing didn't work out but I won't get into that right now, she's basically asexual but there's more to it).

    PUA is really just confidence building and a few tips, that stuff is valid, the rest requires a LOT of assumption, IMNSHO.

    Thoughts? Do you agree with this analysis?

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    No, you're missing the point. PUA take all of what you said into account: that's why they have distilled the essence of The Game into a neat mantra, "Play the numbers game." Given the variety of personalities, one increases one's chances by talking to so many women knowing that there is not one sure way to get them all. PUA requires spontaneity and wit more than anything so that one can adapt and push on when what one is saying is clearly not striking a chord. The only real flaws with PUA is the prospective PUA himself.

    Besides, you're not being very fair to "alpha" males because you're generalizing them. Some of them are very cool and not too arrogant, some of them are the opposite. Similarly, some betas are douchebags and some are not.
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